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Mental Health Resolutions For The New Year

Would love to hear your New Year resolutions if you're happy to share them. Sometimes sharing them with others can help to keep you accountable if you need the support to keep them up.

When setting goals, start with small simple ones so that you are not overwhelmed with too much to do at once. Taking small steps and celebrating your achievements along the way helps to keep you on track and more confident about then tackling bigger more challenging goals.

I will share. This year, I decided not to overwhelm myself with the world resolution. I am refining myself this year.


I am going to make a Refinement's List. Things I would like to change over a period of time, things I would like to tune up inside and outside of myself. I am also going to write down the things I currently do and would like to improve, as well as things I would like to explore and learn.

This year, I, Michelle Anne Cope, wish to refine the following in my life.

The Amount of Picture Books I Will Read
The Amount of Teen Nonfiction Books I Will Read
The Amount of Picture Books I Will Write, Create and Complete
The Amount of Nonfiction Books I Will Write, Create and Complete
The Amount of Posters I Will Plan, Create and Complete
I Will Complete the Library Dedication Book and It Will Be Printed
My Weight Is An Issue I Will Address
My Smoking Is An Issue I Will Address
My Overall Health Is An Issue I Will Address
My Attitude and Patience Are Issues I Will Address
I Will Create One Set of Greeting Cards
I Will Create A Business Card
I Will Write Articles Ahead for the Teen Site
I Will Watch More Movies
I Will Listen To More Music
I Will Watch For Peace Over Willing for Drama
I Will Learn How To Use Painter
I Will Learn How To Build My Wardrobe
I Will Learn The Dewey Decimal System
I Will Learn In-Design
I Will Play The Ukulele More

One at a time - no stress, no guilt!

These are refinements and goals created and recorded by Michelle Anne Cope, Sunday, January 3rd, 2016.

Hi Chel, thank you for sharing That is a lot of refining! Sometimes too much can feel overwhelming.

I suggest picking the most important one on the list and start with that, then work through the next one etc. Perhaps 2 or 3 refinements a month is achievable or perhaps not.

I find it useful to ask myself the following::

What can I do now to start to make this a reality?
What steps are needed?
Are they realistic, logical and achievable?
How will I monitor my progress?
How much time will I set aside for each refinement? (some may need more time than others)
Have I got anyone that can keep me accountable? (would you like to report your progress on here and/or I can ask you each week how it's going if that would help?)
Who will I speak to when/if I start to feel overwhelmed or struggling?
What will I do to celebrate each achievement?

Hope that helps to make it feel more manageable

Tracy! Thank you!

Two things I need and want to work on is the picture books and The Library Book Dedication Project.

Here is why - The Library Project needs to be complete and printed by June, when the new library opens. I need to break this down and see how many pages I have left to complete and what my game plan needs to be for them.

The picture books are important because I'm building a portfolio to go along with the library project and a community center that has just opened in our community. I already have one complete for my portfolio. These will be completed examples to show what I can do.

That is also a project that can be broken down. Right now, I have one project open, and I need to finish planning it out and create the pages.

These are very important to me. Without a huge explanation, this is my talent, this is what I can do right now in my life.

So, now I have two things I can plan out!

Thank you!

You're welcome

Sounds like you've got the start of a plan I find that breaking things down to manageable steps makes it feel less of a huge task to complete. Good luck! It sounds like an exciting venture!

I will keep you updated!
Chel

Hi Chel! How's it going?

I've decided to break mine down into monthly chunks.

This month my goal is to:

Buy a website and get it up and running by the end of January - sounds easy enough lol!

Hi Tracy!
It's going really good.
I am working on my Picture Book Portfolio the rest of this weekend and over the weekend.
I forgot I had one book completed that I wanted to spruce up a bit. Working on that tonight and in the morning, hope to finish "Chef Jeff and Gus" by Sunday as well. That would put my count of finished picture books at three. I have an outline for a Valentine's Day book and another for a book on writing. That would give me the total of five that I wanted.
And I have also been reading.
How is your website project going?
Chel

Hi Chel!

Sounds great. So glad to hear that everything is going so well. Well done to you for keeping going

Mercury has gone retrograde for the next 3 weeks which is to with communications, travel and technology. Not that I'm superstitious or anything...the website company have not been forthcoming about hosting the site, a course I want to attend kept kicking me off its site so I couldn't book my place and my PayPal account has been restricted and they are waiting for confirmation of my address. Feels like a conspiracy lol! Maybe I need to step back and re-evaluate.

When things don't flow i take it as a sign that I'm not meant to be doing it or I need more information before I commit or the time is right...

I'm going to try again today and if nothing works again I'll take it as I'm on the wrong track... Wish me luck!

Tracy

Hi Tracy!
How did it go with your website. I do not have a website as I am not good in that area. Facebook alone can often give me fits! I bow to your perseverance!
PayPal has never been a good friend of mine. I have tried it twice. The last time was a few months ago. I used it for one transaction and kept getting scads of spam type email that someone had a deposit waiting for me in my account - they just needed to verify my account. They did not even have my account number to begin with! I ignored them and closed the account.
I am anxious to hear how you are doing with this project.
Chel

Hi Chel! Thanks for your support I've found the site I want and doing a three day trial with it at the moment to see how easy it is to work with etc. Not sure who to host it for me so got to research that.

I met with a colleague over the weekend. We have been asked to come up with something to teach in schools around mindfulness and resilience for the students and the teachers so that's got to be priority at the moment. Got to come up with a plan for that asap. It's never ending!

I make plans for what I think I ned to do and him up there has other plans for me

How's your projects coming along?

I understand changing priorities. Trust me, often times I go one way and He wishes I go another! His way is always the best I find! (Sometimes I find this out much later.)

My projects are going good. I am almost finished with one, and getting another into shape today as I took a vacation from it over the holidays! I would love to show you some of my stuff. If you would like, if you send me your email to my teen site, I will share some with you.

I hope you have a productive day! And that is very interesting about your school project!

Chel

My mental health goals are simple - take good care of myself!

This last year, having to manage the caregiving for my mom and aunt, has exhausted me. I realized that I only saw one of my very dearest friends two times. Another friend, maybe I saw her six times. That's ridiculous LOL!!!!

I have been working to reconnect with friends, and set dates with them.

I have also realized that how I'm managing care for my aunt was focused on doing what she wanted. That meant I put myself last. That has changed!

I'm getting a weekly massage for right now. As things calm down, that may go to bi-weekly.

And I started feeling better the moment I made my new plan

Hi Deanna, That sounds like a great goal. You're on top it too

I made some commitments to myself the other day to put me first, to listen o myself and to trust myself. Has been really interesting to notice how I was undermining myself without realising. Since making the commitments I'm really aware any time I renage on my promises. Very humbling.

So glad you're putting yourself first and finding time for 'you'. Massage once a week will make a huge difference. Thanks for sharing

Hi Chel how are you? How are the resolutions going? Have you managed to stay on track?

I've got a website that I'm working on and not made a decision if its the one I want yet or if it needs to be different - decisions decisions! I don't suppose it matters really as long as its a presence that represents 'me' and my business.

Would love to hear how your getting on

Hi Tracy!

I am staying on track. I had this hilarious idea that I could finish them all by the end of March. - Please feel free to laugh loudly at this point. -

I finished the book I was creating as a gift for the dedication of our new library branch. And, I am working on creating a production schedule for other projects I have on my list.

Alas, I will be going beyond March.

Just the word website makes me woozy. I have ventured into this world once or twice and have had similar problems as you describe above.

However, IT'S ON THE LIST!

I hope you are doing well. I will try to stay in touch more, you know how life can get.

Chel