Obese is not a belittling terminology nor is it an insult and it isn't negative either. It is a word for the people who are more than overweight. Saying that someone is obese when that person is really obese is not an attack it is simply the truth. As an adult if you want to live like that then okay it is your choice but do not force this on children and do not try to stop people from helping obese children. Also do not judge people who are thin.