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Deanna, I came across this on fb and thought of you. You are an optimistic person. So many others are not. This video is a wonderful resource for living a happier life. (YOU probably do most of this already.)
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Oh! My! Gosh! Connie, that is absolutely the most delightful and fun video ever!! I just LOVE what he has to say about happiness.

I know too many people who blame their unhappiness on other people! It's just so sad.

We have EVERYTHING we need within us already - we were created in the image of our creator - and that's not a physical image, it's a spiritual image. We were created to create! That means happiness is part of us too.

Thank you so much for sharing that laugh


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Originally Posted By Deanna - New Age
I know too many people who blame their unhappiness on other people! It's just so sad.


I am guilty of this because when another person who is in your life and is acting up, then it's very difficult to be in a place of happiness.

The saying is you can't change how other people act, but you can change your response to it, is a bunch of poo! That only works if the other person has no real meaning in your life.

Thoughts?

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Originally Posted By Alice - Weight Loss
Originally Posted By Deanna - New Age
I know too many people who blame their unhappiness on other people! It's just so sad.


I am guilty of this because when another person who is in your life and is acting up, then it's very difficult to be in a place of happiness.

The saying is you can't change how other people act, but you can change your response to it, is a bunch of poo! That only works if the other person has no real meaning in your life.

Thoughts?


Alice, this is something I've thought about for a long time, because yes, absolutely, when someone is in our lives, yet they act up, it can cause us a lot of unhappiness.

And I've had someone like this in my life for a very long time now. For a while I blamed my unhappiness on this other person's behavior. Then one day it dawned on me that if this person was the one in charge of making sure I was happy, well, then I would never be happy.

I tell ya, that realization was a flippen' eye-opener. I had to really look at their behavior, and how much of it did I allow? Was I speaking up? Was I tolerating? Was there something I could change myself? Was there something I could ask them to change? I had to decide to change what I could - because YES, if there is something they are doing that CAN be changed, I am all for that! What could I change in myself? And, then I had to figure out what I just simply had to accept. And sometimes there's just stuff that has to be accepted.

If you watch the video that Connie shared, a lot of those things he suggests, I've done for quite a while now, and it really, really has made a difference.

Now is my life stress free? Absolutely not!! I cried for like two hours on Saturday because I was just so flippen' depressed. And sometimes that's what we have to do - honor the emotional pain that we may experience.

But Saturday did teach me something also, about something that I was tolerating that was emotionally painful. Once I had a good cry, it was clear, and - though my previous tendency would have been to wait for things to fall into place - to let someone else fix things - THIS time I took action myself, for myself. And I feel a HUGE relief!!

This has gotten really long, but in short (finally) yes Alice, I do believe that we can be in charge of our happiness.

I just discovered though that so often, when I was unhappy, it was because I thought making a change would upset the other person (and it often does!). So I'd keep quiet, becoming more, and more unhappy.

Anyway, that's my experience wink


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Thanks Deanna for sharing.

You are right, of course. However, that is part of our life's journey ... learning to find happiness within despite the external situation.


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Oy, that's for sure, right Alice?

And I am constantly being reminded of this smile But, I am grateful that I notice it faster than I used to.

I keep being reminded that life is a series of course-corrections.


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The mind is so strange and amazing. Whatever we focus on we create from. If we are always expecting bad things we won't even see the good things that are there. I find that gratitude journals are so good to keep us on track.

Its true others do affect us, and it doesn't always feel like a choice of how we react cos we can feel so beaten down by other people we just resign ourself to more of the same and respond in the same way rather than challenging them about their behaviour we close down and change our behaviour

You've given me an idea for an article smile


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