Hi Angie ad all,
When I was a kid a message and lesson given to us by the nuns was that JOY was a matter of looking to JESUS first, then OTHERS then YOURSELF.
I am not a kid anymore but the lesson stuck and I find it works pretty well.
Of course a person has to work at it all the time, but still, if the basics are in place it is easier than not. Moreso, it's simple enough to start again every time I slip up!
Cheers now