Marriage is a commitment, a pledge to be partners for the rest of your lives. That is the difference between just being together with an easy-out clause versus making it official (legal).
I married the love of my life. In fact, dare I say, my soul mate. But that doesn't mean it's been easy for us.
Sometimes, I feel like we're running a three-legged race and there are times when we are in sync and covering a lot of ground while other times, one of us just wants to stay put or go in a different direction.
It's been sobering for me to realize, time and time again, that no matter how frustrated or angry I might get because of things that I cannot change about him or he about me, I love him. We are very different in many ways, but both of us come with all of our flaws. I have the choice to take it or leave it. The third option (change it) just isn't on the table with him.
But leaving it to seek my fulfillment and happiness is counterproductive since he is so much of my fulfillment and happiness, too.
We're like little kids still who want to play together but want to play different games. But we make it work because, well, the love is strong. There is no other person on earth we'd rather be with.
So I live with his addictions (soft) and he lives with my neuroses (minor).
No one said it would be easy but it is worth it.