Hello Tina,
Good reading as always, thanks.
You say "... or maybe it was a present and we don’t want it, but can’t throw it out because we will hurt the giver of the gift."
I am sure that everyone has been caught by 'Auntie May's teapot.' which is what we called in in our family. But what I think is that when someone gives you something, then it is yours to do with what you will. They relinquish any right they have over the thing (or should).
If an item does not suit you, it is better passed on to someone else who would appreciate it. I am determined not to get caught up in someone else's expectations.
I certainly do not set out to hurt the feelings of anyone, but if they know me well enough they would not buy me or give me something they suspect I may not like or have a use for.
Managing a relationship, like giving a gift, is a very complicated affair!
Cheers now
Last edited by Lestie4containergardens; 05/04/14 12:12 AM.