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#860969 - 04/03/14 04:15 PM is this abuse on her?
arris Offline

Registered: 01/23/14
Posts: 5
first my mom never hits me . me and my bother got into a fight at mcdonalds we threw ketchup on each fooling around.im older im 15 he is 13. i got some ketchup on some woman clothes and my mom had to reinburst her for the damage. my mom freak out on me told me i was a immature baby and my brother to in front of people in mcdonlads. Leaving mcdonalds she told us that she should get us some pacifers and some pampers and a playpen. people were looking at me. like she was right. she took away my x box my i pod and cell i cant go out on weekends now. on the car ride home she is yelling at us telling us when she goes to wallmart she should buy us a crib and stuff.telling me we made her look like a bad mother shes being a total ***** to me.Can i turn her into CPS for abuse saying those things to me? isnt it slander or something saying lies about someone. saying i need pampers and making me look bad in public.For the record he started it my brother not me. its not fair shes doing this. she took away my games and i cant go out now cause of that *****. i want her to chill out and give my stuff back to me. no one got hurt she doesnt get that.

#860979 - 04/03/14 09:20 PM Re: is this abuse on her? [Re: arris]
Lestie4containergardens Offline

Registered: 02/06/11
Posts: 856
Loc: Johannesburg, South Africa
Dear Arris,

It seems that you do not really know much about child abuse by the tone or the information offered in your post above.

An abused child does not always have a Mother, or get to go to McDonalds, own an X box and or an I pod or a mobile phone.

You seem to be upset about your Mom's behaviour in front of the people in McDonalds, yet you say nothing about your quarrelsome behaviour with your brother throwing tomato sauce around to the extent that your Mom had to reimburse another customer for the mess.

I think if you went to the CPS they would just laugh at you.

You made yourself look bad in public. Take responsibility for your actions, accept your punishment, apologise to your Mother and grow up - after all you are 15!

Since you have chosen to post your query on two different subject areas, I have answered in both.

This is my own opinion and does not represent anyone else connected in any way whatsoever to Bellaonline.

Good luck with your decisions.

Edited by Lestie4containergardens (04/03/14 09:21 PM)
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#861037 - 04/04/14 12:37 PM Re: is this abuse on her? [Re: arris]
arris Offline

Registered: 01/23/14
Posts: 5
.MY MOM JUST DIDNT CALL ME A BABY BUT TOLD ME I BELONG IN PAMPERS AGAIN look people heard her call me a baby in mcdonalds and tell me that she was going to get me diapers and a crib for what i did. i have witnessess dont you think that would help with soical servcies. its not fair it was only ketchup we threw on people and the people in front of us were old like in 60s they wouldnt even know it was on there clothes if my mom didnt say anything. its not fair you know. i dont want to sound like a whinny baby . she had to pay 45 bucks for the clothes i ruined but that was her choice. BUT NO OTHER MOM WOULD TELL ME THAT I SHOULD BE IN DIAPERS AND NEED A BOTTLE ONLY MINE DOES THAT. thats how un cool she is.. IT WAS ONLY MCDONALDS NO PLACE FANCY AND IT WAS KETCHUP. her telling everyone im a baby and belong in pampers and stuff was foul you know and a bunch of lies. no one got hurt it was only ketchup. cause of her people think i need pampers on me now. she needs to chill the out.

#861135 - 04/05/14 03:26 PM Re: is this abuse on her? [Re: arris]
Lisa - Moms Offline
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Registered: 02/12/08
Posts: 1556
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Arris - I am sure that you know you do not belong in pampers and you know that the people around know that you do not belong in pampers. I am also fairly certain that most of the people who may have observed this scene will understand your mom's anger and embarrassment and - perhaps - poor choice of words.

Verbal and emotional abuse is a real form of abuse and difficult to substantiate with child protective services.

It is important to look at your own behavior during this situation. It appears you do not have any concern for the ketchup that was splattered on people whom you do not know. It appears that because - in your eyes - they were older, it matters even less.

I responded to you on the Moms forum as well. And, again, I hope that you and your mom have put this behind you. I might recommend some family counseling if this is a typical interaction between the two of you. You can also call 1-800-4 A CHILD, the National Child Abuse Hotline for more information on child abuse.

Perhaps, you can volunteer some of your free time to help abused children in your community.
Lisa Pinkus

Moms Site

#861146 - 04/05/14 03:56 PM Re: is this abuse on her? [Re: arris]
ELS - Child Abuse Editor Offline
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Registered: 08/13/13
Posts: 27
Loc: USA
Thank you Lisa and Lestie for responding to Arris post. I could not have said it better than the two of you have already responded. I agree 1000% that arris needs to be responsible for her actions, and hold her self accountable.

Have a blessed day ladies!
Have a blessed day-

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