I haven't read the article but LOVE the title of the thread!!
Division doesn't always necessarily come via adoption...what actually comes to mind is my husband showing me a photo of an adoption regarding politics and a really weird apology.
Anyway, it was Mitt Romney with a black grandchild and he was being mocked apparently???
by an African American. Why? I can't imagine that would help an adopted child's self-esteem...
What I saw was a full-grown adult picking on a family for whatever reason.
If you adopt, it's a challenge. I've seen it far too many times and it's difficult. However if grown-ups can't handle themselves surrounding that adoption in a balanced manner, the process can be equally difficult making adjustments when you make decisions for whatever reason you do.
You may be in too deep and can't handle it. You may be subject to a situation that has been one removed from a previous household, etc. but if YOU'RE NOT balanced, yourself, prior to adopting and scrutiny - how does the adoption benefit?
Love, to me, must be first and foremost