he's manipulating you with the whole "everyone leaves me" bit, they all do that, my abuser did that. don't fall for it. also, i know plenty of men who are bi-polar who would NEVER hit a woman, ever. his bi-polar defense is just another excuse to have you pity him and guilt you into staying by his side. real talk: this guy will end up killing you if you don't leave him now while you still can. don't become a statistic. he is not who you want him to be, he NEVER will be. i promise you that. i know.... he may say "baby i love you, i need help, i am not a monster" but he is. and he will beat the [censored] out of you until you run or he kills you. do yourself a favor and talk to a trusted friend. what is happening to you may cause you shame or embarrassment but your LIFE is worth more than any of that. abusers don't care about you, they care about themselves. if you leave him, he'll just move onto another woman and beat the hell out of her too. they never stop the cycle and never get better. abuse is ingrained in them. anger is ingrained in them. jealousy and control are ingrained in them. not love, not empathy, not compassion... just rage. leave now and do it when he's not around. i did it. so can you.