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#826306 06/17/13 03:46 PM
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I'm really emotional today and just want a mum! My mother is alive and well and is a lovely person, but she's always been emotionally unavailable. I was the oldest of 5 kids and my needs were never noticed or cared about. Even when I was 5 years old she wasn't there for me. Or when I was 14. She was just busy and distracted. Now I'm 32 and my abusive husband is leaving me. I've been strong for him, for me and our children and everybody. But today I just need a mum. :'( I want to feel looked after. I feel like I should reach out to her, give her another chance. But I'm so scared she'll be cold again. She already knows what I'm going through, why wouldn't she just turn up on my doorstep? Do I really have to ask? And how? Feeling like such a helpless little kid today. :S

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10pm already -

Sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time. I sense the emptiness you must be feeling needing someone to be there for you who isn't. Was there anyone in your life who was there for you to lean on? Did you reach out to your mom?

I hope you are doing better today.

Be strong for yourSelf.


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Hope you're doing ok... just checking back in.


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Thanks so much Lisa xo I bounced back that afternoon, but it was a horrible morning. I haven't felt the need of a mum so strongly in my life as I did that morning! Partly hormonal I guess, but I'm since trying to make changes to the way I interact emotionally with everyone around me... trying to receive more, if that makes sense. Receive their smiles, their eye contact, their nice words as support for me. Usually I'm in giving mode, and I think I've just run out! I didn't reach out to anyone else, but your lovely comment and a random thoughtful message from an aunt helped. I would like to reach my mum eventually. We've had some little breakthroughs but I think it's going to take more constant effort. I just wish there were more warm, loving older women around. My husband and I would both benefit so much from that kind of company. Even just to have warm and caring people in the community around us. The lack of it is inspiring me to aim to be a more close and loving mum anyway...

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Glad to hear you made it through that moment, 10pm. From what you wrote above, it sounds like you and your husband do not have a supportive community around you. I hope you are able to stretch your creativity and try to find other ways to get that support since your mother is not able to provide it to you!


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