For years I was someone that set a goal and went after it cold turkey. I was my worst critic (probably still am) and my quietest cheerleader.
Having children awakened me to recognize a softer side of me. I was able to encourage and support them in anything they attempted.
Then, as they got older, I noticed, my words were not the things they learned from most, it was my actions. Furthermore, I noticed that I was becoming more fierce with my girls in an effort to guide them toward positive choices (ironic huh?).
Taking inventory of my whole health, as I do twice a year, I realized that this concept was creeping into all areas of my life. With that, I decided to make a correction. I began by looking at my interactions with me.
Once I became gentler with myself, it became easier to be gentler with my girls. I noted my missed steps and forgave myself, moving forward with the personal knowledge that every moment is an opportunity to do better. With my girls watching I softened that protective shell I was wearing.
Furthermore, when they came to me to discuss things they felt remorse for, I was able to to respond with a hug, positive words, and my new motto; "Every moment is an opportunity to do better."
As a result my family is a closer knitted tapestry. I have made amazing whole health strides. And finally, I have become a gentler human being.
I hope this thread and the article written in its spirit will inspire someone to be more gentle with themselves. Being Gentle With Ourselves
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