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Usually, compatibility issues are worked out during the dating phase. What happens when you find out just how incompatible you are after you marry? Incompatibility and Marriage
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Great article Lori! The points you made are so true. We, as humans, tend to forget or miss these points when life happens.. Thank you for your article!Made me think and realize
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I haven't read the article yet, but what I'm finding is that "compatibility" issues ARE NOT worked out during the Dating Phase, but overlooked or dismissed in general, in an attempt to either keep a "fantasy" going or just, say the end all goal IS in fact, Marriage...
I wish more people would address or unveil some of the more REAL issues during the Dating Phase instead of well, not.
I think it's just more fun to focus on going out, taking a cruise, picking out the perfect honeymoon or dress even, plan the perfect party or NEXT youtube video isle-walk-down. And then once the "piz-zaz" has died down, THEN you're left with what was always there, plus whatever has accumulated w/current affairs, such as finances or just boredom.
Last edited by Elleise - Clairvoyance; 11/01/12 09:48 PM.
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Lori, I loved this article. I know you are looking for a replacement, but I hope you write the Marriage site forever. You are just too good.
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Thanks for the support, Inci, Connie and Elleise! I appreciate it so much. You guys are terrific. You're right, Elleise, that those incompatibility issues *aren't* worked out during the dating phase so I changed the description of the article appropriately. I said they *should* be. LOL.
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What's that saying? Ah, " Good-Show" Gosh, I didn't know you were thinking about a replacement,but I agree whole-heartedly, you're just too good
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Very good article, Lori. There are things you continue to learn about your partner as time goes on, but I think it's good to take your time to get to know him or her and what matters in their life. Don't rush things. There will always be issues that will show up or come up after the marriage vows, but if you have done your best to get to know your partner before marriage, most things if not all can be worked out with love and patience.
Debbie Grejdus Spirituality Site Editor Spirituality Forum Moderator
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I really do agree.
If it can be bought, the life-span is considerably less than say something perpetual, between two people that had and has the care and time put into it for longevity - endurance.
With an investment such as relationships, you don't want the newest and latest, but something reliable to enjoy/share the good times with but also get through the tough times as well.
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