When my children have computer time, and I give them the ten and then the five minute reminder.... and then they tell me they "just have to finish something" or they'll "lose what they've accomplished" or "can I just..."
I do that too, Yvonnie. My children must put away their homework, pencils, etc. In fact, homework has to go back in the backpack. Then, they have to make sure they've done one thing to help out in the house, straighten up their rooms, and THEN they can go on the computer.
The computer thing is a big one for me. My husband is going to rig me a remote so I can turn off their computers when they don't listen to me.
How about : what should I do next? when getting ready in the morning I've even made charts to "help" and they still ask me.
Lori - my mom repeatedly tells me that she "sat back" and let us work it out. I try so hard to do the same, but it doesn't always happen. I, too, cannot stand to hear the bickering and the inappropriate accusations and the getting all riled up for such a silly reason!
How about when you say to everyone - "ok. we're going to pick up the new glasses, make a quick trip to the grocery, and then will be home." And then one after the other says "what are we doing, mom?" "are we going home after we get the glasses?" etc.
Even with four children, I think I sometimes have to repeat it 6 times until I finally say "everyone stop and look at me. This is what is happening...."