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#788716 - 10/20/12 07:42 PM Re: Should this marriage be saved? [Re: Lori - Marriage]
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Me personally, I feel, "For Better or Worse..." the vows, just over time, especially (sorry) but w/those DA reality T.V. shows not really helping any, etc.

But marriage, to me anyway, I mean unless you're in danger, the vows - spiritually are there for a reason. Otherwise, just date and get on w/it, internet - wise when things get tough or you happen to have a short-term attention span.

Alzheimers, if it were my spouse, I'd stay w/him, BUT I'd also investigate resources to help out.

Sexuality, if someone can't perform (which is different from won't) but either way, if your marriage still retains the value it once did...way back when, there are ways to relieve yourself w/out making it an all-round social deal or excuses to do whatever, whenever.

10 yrs. ago a teacher confided there was an STD epidemic, the public knew nothing about....I'm like why don't they make a public announcement or something?

Her words..."Politics. They don't want to alarm the public how badly it really is..."

Back to marriage...marry your BEST FRIEND! And, stick w/them through thick or thin.

I'm hoping this doesn't offend anyone smile

But it pretty much sums up what (in my heart) marriage should be about) that 'once upone a time' thingy we start out with, but waves DO come and go.

How Could We See That Far?


Edited by Elleise - Clairvoyance (10/20/12 07:46 PM)
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#789062 - 10/22/12 08:15 PM Re: Should this marriage be saved? [Re: Lori - Marriage]
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I'm sorry to hear that, Ketah. This must be a very difficult thing to go through. frown

How are you feeling now with the transplant? I hope stronger. Please know we're here if you ever want to talk, vent, connect...


Edited by Lori - Marriage (10/22/12 08:16 PM)
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#789080 - 10/23/12 12:02 AM Re: Should this marriage be saved? [Re: Lori - Marriage]
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Honestly, Inci, I would probably not even know what to do...I just hope I will be guided and made stronger by the knowledge that marriage is meant to be forever.


Edited by mark laverdiere (10/23/12 12:04 AM)

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#789323 - 10/24/12 10:10 AM Re: Should this marriage be saved? [Re: mark laverdiere]
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I tried twice to make my marriage last forever. That was my desire and belief. I was willing to do what it takes to make them work, but both times my husbands bailed out, for a heck of a lot less than a serious illness. You can't make a marriage work all on your own.

My last relationship ended in the death of my partner. He was sick and needed a lot of care at times. I could never fathom the thought of leaving him, and we never took marriage vows. Love is love, for better or for worse.
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