My husband and I have had problems with his 20 y/o son, I have posted other posts about it. During one of our fights about him my 16 y/o stepson got mad because his older brother (who is on drugs, alcohol and is violent) isnt allowed in the house anymore. He stormed out the door yelling that he was going to his mothers (who has full custody anyway) and told me to "stay out of his f-ing life". I didnt say anything at all to him, I just let him go. He was back the next day and neither of us mentioned the incident. I just let it go and things seem fine between us now. my husband and I did talk about it and I told him I dont like his son talking to me like that. My husband said I deserved it. The argument had nothing to do with the younger son...maybe we shouldnt have been fighting in front of him and honestly, I didnt even see him laying on the couch until he jumped up yelling. I understand he is upset that his brother isnt allowed in the house right now but I think he needs to stay out of any arguments between me and my hubby. My parents fought when I was growing up and I never jumped into their arguments. Well anyway..I was really posting this to find out how other people feel about disaplining their stepchildren? Do we have a right to do it? My step kids are 16 and 20 and should know better at that age but there was never any rules or disapline in this house before I moved in, my hubbys boys were allowed to do whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted, their friends were coming in and out of the house all hours of the night. We have a band room in the basement and there was loud music all night...I put an 8pm curfew on the loud music. I want some peace and quite sometimes. Well anyway, I was just looking for opinions. Thanks.