Dear Jilly -

It is natural that such a major life change is your main focus right now. It is healthy and good. Take each day one at a time, and know that you have many friends around the world who are sending care and compassion your way.

This change is happening for a reason, to open your life up for new, better possibilities.

I don't know if i have faith that better things are coming, but it is certainly a time of change.

I feel bolstered to know people around the world care, though. <3

Loong, any advice for seeking acceptance with what must be dealt with, emotionally?

Dear Jilly,
i am more than honored that you should ask me for advice.
Here goes, Attachments to other humans or things always brings suffering.You are agood person.Try ,i say try to live in the Now.
and slowly detach from the attachment you have for your husband.
As soon as you realize that you are feeling really bad those are the moments you will be thinking of your husband.Stop Immediately and come back to the world of now ,where suffering does not exist.ExempleYou tell yourself at this instant, i have a
house to live in, a bit of money, maybe a car,food in the fridge
animals ,what am I complaining about.

We suffer when we go to the past or to the future who are both illusions of things that happened and things that have not yet happened.Repeat that as much as you can to close the gash in your heart,and slowly the gash will close, becomming a scar ,that will always be there,but disapearing slowly.

All the Loving Kindness that I posses i send to you.

Time does not heal things ,people do.So my spiritual sister start working.

a friend
loong

I agree with Loong, Jilly. People do heal themselves, and can heal themselves. Many of us do not realize that.

It took me two years to let go of my ex-husband after our divorce, and I did have a gash in my heart that I thought would never heal. The more I thought of him, the more I would hurt. It was only after I started to work on my own spirituality to heal myself that I finally let him go. Now I feel nothing when I think of him, and I barely even think of him at all.

I do know this......had I worked sooner on myself to live in the Now, to accept that I have good things around me, people who love me, and to realize that there is value within myself, I would have healed so much earlier. We do keep ourselves in our own tortuous place, but we can change that if we have the courage to do so.

This is all new for you right now. You have to deal with the grief and don't push it away at first. Have a few good cries and accept the hurt you feel. It is normal to feel this way. Then make it a point to start taking care of yourself and healing yourself. Keep busy with your interests and you will start to feel strong again. Live in the moment and realize that there is beauty all around you and inside of you. When you believe in yourself the good things will come to you.

I hear people say they are not religious, but spiritual.

I have heard some people say that as well. Being spiritual can include religious beliefs, or not include religion at all.

An Atheist can be a spiritual person by just believing in themselves and finding harmony and balance with Nature and what is within their self.

Very true, Phyllis.

To all ,

An atheist,is the perfect exemple of a spiritual person.

I remember ,In a thread I wrote:spirituality with or without God.
That is what I was talking about.The thread was poorly understood and went all over.Yet here ,in this thread ,it's fine to be an atheist and a spiritual being.

All Buddhists are atheists.

loong

We strive to keep the threads on topic, but often with various ways of thinking a thread can go in different directions. It is a way to learn and grow as ideas are shared.

As always Loong, thank you for your post.