Hi, I've been scouring the internet for advice on domestic abuse situations but unfortunately not all of it can apply for me. Firstly to begin, I am very concerned for a close friend of mine. I'm a male and her closest friend, however I am trying my best to not get involved. She has been in an abusive relationship for 8 years and finally did something about it last year. They were not married or living together, but they did share a real estate investment together. This is trying to be sorted legally (hopefully). Anyway, she changed her numbers and tried ending it, however this person came to her workplace very calmly as a visitor (unknown to her) and got to her desk and took her phone. He was since able to get her new number. After realizing that she was able to start moving away from him, he has become increasingly aggressive to her and anyone around her. He showed up to her workplace again and hit her in front of everyone. He was put out the premises and reported to the police, but nothing ever came out of that. He took her phone and handbag again and has gone through all her contacts and personal details, messaging people and even calling her office saying she is not available to work again. He completely destroyed all her ID cards/licenses/bank cards etc and sent it to her in a garbage bag. Unfortunately she got caught in a similar situation this week, whereby his sister lured her to 'talk' and low and behold, he was there waiting. She was beaten severly and had to 'reconfirm' her love to him before she was allowed to leave. He now has her checking in all day with him. He makes her call him at 5am when she is leaving her home, 7am when she gets to work and he calls throughout the day on her work number to check that she is at her desk. He also was able to access her email accounts and changed her passwords, now he is going through all and email people from her account Needless to say she is a wreck. She has confided in me, but I don't think she can get through this with only one person knowing. She clearly needs someone looking out for her, which I'm willing to do as much as possible....except I don't know what to do. There is already a report made in the police station about him, but I don't want to get involved in the report. whereby names are revealed. Her mom and 2 sisters that live with her have a small idea of whats going on, but no clue on how bad it really is. Help. What to do, where to turn to. Unfortunately, where we live, there is a domestic abuse center, but it's more to show a name than they actually help people

I was in somewhat of a similar situation mine i have to say was not that awful he has left me alone. What i did was go to the police department. ( they will go to her as well) being she cannot leave without him knowing it. Ask for a private detective specifically for domestic violence. Have her record his calls to her and her to him as leverage. any and all past situations can be used to her benefit, have her gather all of that together. Let me just say the private detectives in this field take it very serious. My detective always answered his phone when i was in need or made another person available to help if for some reason he was tied up. Let me just say this she needs to get out. He is now to the point he has no remorse for her safety and he will hurt her if not kill her. It is the final step to losing it all for him, he is desperate and that is the most scary part of this. I wish i could call her guide her and give her safety and freedom. She does need to realize that she may have to sacrifice a lot to get him out of her life. I hope you can help her with this. I will pray for her safety. But PLEASE PLEASE go to the police or have a private detective come to her and force this man out of her life. He has no right to control her. One day she will just disappear and he will just have to move on.