I think they just don't like seeing their kids in any type of pain.
I kind of go into things myself, head first. When I divorced, I just dated kind of like, get that initiation out of the way.
From there, like you, I didn't want nor was ready to have any type of solid relationship, but the movement helped just in going through the motions.
From there I was able to focus on other things and eventually just enjoyed being around energetic people, which gave me the momentum to have my own business, which lead me to a very balanced place.
When you get there, you meet all the right people