My gilfteind wants me to marry her but I have serious doubts. She is more attracted to the neighbor lady. She makes up any excuse to go over there. She curls her hair puts on make up and perfume just to go get batteries. Plus there is a guy that we barely know and she sat on his lap, if I were to do that (which I wouldn't) she would get mad. Alot of red flags in why I don't want to marry her. I tell her about why I don't and she still asks me, no matter what I say. I don't want to marry her and then she goes and screws around with someone else... No thanks.
Why would she not trust me? I stay home with her and am always with her... I was hurt before like this but with a guy. I am trying to get a place and get out of here. She is the one who goes by herself places, not me. Thanks for the advice.
It sounds like you have respect for her in the relationship but she does not have respect for you. Do not marry someone you can't trust. She has the issues, not you. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Even if she is joined to you in marriage I think the playing around for her will continue.
You don't need that. If this is how you see it too all I can say is move on.
Debbie Grejdus Spirituality Site Editor Spirituality Forum Moderator
In addition to the trust issue, I am hearing that you feel disrespected by her. There sounds like there are too many doubts to get into a marriage at this point. Marriage is a big step and should not be undertaken unless you are both ready.
You have been getting a lot of advice to break up but it doesn't sound to me like you are ready to go in that direction either. If you don't want to break up, consider couples counseling. It can sometimes help couples communicate better and begin to treat each other with respect.