Hey Jilly,

I think they just don't like seeing their kids in any type of pain.

I kind of go into things myself, head first. When I divorced, I just dated kind of like, get that initiation out of the way.

From there, like you, I didn't want nor was ready to have any type of solid relationship, but the movement helped just in going through the motions.

From there I was able to focus on other things and eventually just enjoyed being around energetic people, which gave me the momentum to have my own business, which lead me to a very balanced place.

When you get there, you meet all the right people

I agree, parents push because they want to see their children in a good situation, and being single probably doesn't fit well with their perspective.

Not my mother.....she never urged me to see more men. Most of them are trouble anyway!

No offense to the nice guys that post on bellaonline, of course.....

LOL, Cassie. Your mother sounds restful.

I have a Jewish mother, so i guess her pushing me comes naturally...

I've been separated for almost two months now. My marriage was pretty much over when it started, but even though I'm not missing him, not upset that he's gone I'm still taking some time to get to know myself again and get out there. It's a slow process, but I know it will be worth it. I'm trying to lose weight, find myself again and be there for the kids. If I happen to meet a nice guy right now I would probably give him a chance as a friend and see where it went from there. There's no rush for me :)

It sounds like you are working hard to take care of yourself right now. That's great! I think it's the best thing we can do in these circumstances.

I started dating about 5 months after my leaving a cheating husband and filing for divorce.

After 19 months, I will finally be divorced Thursday the 19th.

It will also be the one yr anniversary that my boyfriend and I have been together!!

that will be a big relief, no?

I believe, like others here have said, that each person is unique as to when they are ready. After my first divorce from a 10 year marriage, I got involved with someone within a few months and after a year got married to #2. Oct 2011, I finally divorced after a rocky 12 years. I think I'm one of those people that needs time to truly get to know herself before adding someone to the mix, but everyone has to do what is right for them. One thing is certain: There is life after divorce!

I both want to date again and i don't. I wish I could have affection without the obligation right now. cats aren't enough.