Absolutely agree with you, Cassie.
Jilly, I WISH, I could put a time frame on it...LOL.... If only it were that easy. When my 2nd husband left, I hung on to him for 10 years, then he came back for 3 years, then we separated and divorced for good. When we divorced the last time, I was so completely finished with him that I started happily dating less then a month later. But even now I get a twinge, but I quickly talk myself out of it.
My first husband, he left - I was dating less then a year later, but not dating to find a new partner, but really just cultivating friendships so I could have someone to hang out and do stuff with.