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#734842 - 12/28/11 08:24 AM How often should a married couple have sex?  
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The Bible doesn�t tell us how often a married couple should have sex, it does tell us that a couple is to abstain only when it is a mutual decision. First Corinthians 7:5 tells us, "Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." So, mutual consent is the "rule" for how often a married couple should have sex. The "rule" is that abstaining from sex must be agreed upon, and that even when it is agreed upon, it should only be for a short time.

Sex should not be withheld or demanded. If one spouse does not want to have sex, the other spouse should agree to abstain. If one spouse wants to have sex, the other spouse should agree. It is all a matter of compromise. We must remember that our bodies belong to our spouses, as 1 Corinthians 7:4 tells us, "The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife." Obviously, the "sexual compromise" in marriage must be reasonable. If one spouse desires sex every day, and the other spouse once a month or less, they will have to lovingly and sacrificially agree to a compromise, a middle ground. Studies show that taking into account all age ranges, a typical married couple has sex 2 times per week.

We have about 1-4 times per week. lovers


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#734882 - 12/28/11 01:34 PM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Astera]  
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I feel sex should be something that is determined by both partners and as you stated, it has to be mutual.

And sometimes we have to understand that just because one partner does not want to have sex, it does not have to mean something bad.

I am learning this myself as he ages - use to get too "emotional" and when he tried to explain, did not want to hear it(lol).

Now I do, and when we do have sex, it is extra special and meaningful. I no longer keep track of how often at age 53...

#734896 - 12/28/11 02:08 PM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Astera]  
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I think anytime a "number" is attached to making love it becomes one more thing I must do instead of being something I desire.

#734899 - 12/28/11 02:16 PM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Astera]  
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LOL - I agree!

#734923 - 12/28/11 03:19 PM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Angela J. Shirley]  
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I agree.....I don't think numbers matter either, as it can vary from week to week, month to month, depending on stress, fatigue level and health of each partner, life's challenges, etc. There should be intimate time to connect with each other on a regular basis, but only when both partners are in agreement.


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#736612 - 01/01/12 01:03 AM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Astera]  
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I personally don't think that if one person wants sex the other should agree. But that is an interesting perspective!

#736624 - 01/01/12 01:16 AM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Astera]  
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I think more than a couple thinks they should. Life is too short not to enjoy the gift of sex...just closing out the year on a high note. wink Hmmm, where is that resolutions list?


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#736751 - 01/01/12 01:40 PM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Astera]  
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LOL Violette - thanks for the NEW YEAR chuckle smile smile smile

#736760 - 01/01/12 03:05 PM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Astera]  
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When you're a senior like yours truly, there may come a time when you don't have the choice to deal with this question any more.

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#736766 - 01/01/12 03:20 PM Re: How often should a married couple have sex? [Re: Astera]  
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Day and night if they like. Its what its for. Thats half the problem with our puritanical culture. Why do you think that we buy so many E.D. products??? Ponder that a while!!! dave

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