Jilly...because they're a "mom"...LOL...

Some women feel that you can't be complete without a man. Sometimes it's something they believe themselves and sometimes it's a vibe they feel from the "child".

Don't do it until your ready. Sure it's nice to have a companion to do stuff with every now and then, but I personally see no reason to rush into anything until you're ready and only YOU will know when that is. Why call it a date? Why can't it be just a nice evening out? LOL...

Great things happen when we stop trying to force nature along...

Thanks, Diane....do you have anything specific though? Everyone has the same advice about being 'ready'. That's nebulous, IMO. What about some milestones to look out for?

I think being ready is feeling good about yourself, feeling confident and happy to be alone and to live alone, yet now you want to find some companionship. You want to do fun things and have a good time with someone who shares the same interests, and if more comes with it down the road then great, but if nothing more comes out of it you will still be ok. Being happy with yourself first means that you don't depend on someone else to make you happy. Then you are ready, and independent too, and that is very attractive to the opposite sex.

Absolutely agree with you, Cassie.

Jilly, I WISH, I could put a time frame on it...LOL.... If only it were that easy. When my 2nd husband left, I hung on to him for 10 years, then he came back for 3 years, then we separated and divorced for good. When we divorced the last time, I was so completely finished with him that I started happily dating less then a month later. But even now I get a twinge, but I quickly talk myself out of it.

My first husband, he left - I was dating less then a year later, but not dating to find a new partner, but really just cultivating friendships so I could have someone to hang out and do stuff with.

Ok guys...I started dating again...this is hard. I think I'm just too use to my own ways. A perfect friend to hang out with, but honestly he takes things so personally!!!

If this is the new dating, I may need to re-think this....LOL...

The new dating, lol. What else is that like?

I am so not interested in dating right now that its become almost funny. Dating seems like so much bother!