lala21, I noticed that you just had your first baby. Congratulations! After a lifetime of no interest in having children, an "epiphany" has suddenly hit me (if that's the right word) that I finally feel ready for a baby. I am 31 yrs old, been married for 10 yrs, and my husband and I have gone all this time not wanting children. Now my feelings have changed, and he is literally in "shell-shock" - he doesn't know what to think. A lot like you described your husband - willing to discuss some of the time, but very intimidated/angry at other times. How long did it take you to convince him to have a baby? I want to give him one year to decide, but I'm trying not to be pushy. Given my age, it is getting so hard to exercise my patience. Would you have any advise?