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#715452 - 09/22/11 02:03 AM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: Sandy / Cocktails Editor]
Burt B. Offline
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Registered: 09/09/11
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Yeah, my family used to be pretty pushy when it came to morals.. I guess a lot more rubbed off than I expected -- If you want freedom then give it first. I have just found that if a person is in a great deal of pain many times the direct approach works the best. Not Always. To each their own. Their Pain Becomes My Pain -- yet I cannot absorb the world's negativity.
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#716385 - 09/27/11 02:07 PM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: Sandy / Cocktails Editor]
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Registered: 03/13/11
Posts: 65
Loc: Pennsylvania, USA
A phone call to the court house has put a "temporary" smile on my face

I have been notified that I have been accepted into the ARD program and a formal letter will be mailed out this week to both myself and my attorney. I say "temporary" smile due to the fact that I do not know what the so-called "conditions" are or fines that are associated with this program (it is different for everyone).

As this progresses, I will keep you posted.
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#719091 - 10/12/11 02:13 PM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: StormChaser]
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StormChaser, that is great news! Let us know how things are going! Still hoping the best for you! smile
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#719104 - 10/12/11 04:05 PM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: StormChaser]
Burt B. Offline
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Registered: 09/09/11
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God Bless You and Keep You as He/She/Her/Him/It Promised StormChaser.. You weren't that lady in the movie were you ?
Fight the Good Fight and WIN DAMMIT !!!!!
Sincerely,
Burt B.
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#727962 - 11/29/11 12:42 AM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: StormChaser]
StormChaser Offline
Amoeba

Registered: 03/13/11
Posts: 65
Loc: Pennsylvania, USA
UPDATE:

I know it has been a while since I have written, but, the ups and downs in regards to my situation continue. Once I think everything is ok, it ends up not being the case.

As I stated in my most recent post, I was advised that I was accepted into the ARD program. I received my acceptance letter with the "conditions" and fines. I totally lost it and not in a good way. My first "UP" was being accepted into the program. Then all the "DOWNS" came at once. I have 2 yrs. probation (which I think is way to excessive), I have to complete 200 hrs community service within the first year "AND" here is the big one...they have attached to the conditions that an outstanding bill that my employer's insurance carrier failed to pay for property damage for the telephone pole that the "OTHER GUY HIT" be paid within 9 months..thats almost 10K!! I almost blacked-out after reading that!

It seems that I get one "UP" for every 4-5 "DOWNS". My lawyer told me that I am the insured and that the carrier has to pay. I had faith in him and after a couple phone calls that I "personally" made to the adjuster, they paid the bill!! And just in time right before my hearing before the judge.

My court date to go before the judge was on November 15th and I paid the court fines (around $1300.00) in full and met with my probation officer. I also dropped off a confirmation email from the adjuster with his electronic signature on it stating that the claim was paid in full. You would think that would be good enough..think again!! After talking to the collections dept. they said they have to look into it and see if that will suffice. WHAT THE F***???? Now they are just screwing with me! I have a phone call into the court collections dept. to get a more in-depth explanation.

In the meantime, I have decided to go further to cover my butt. I called the phone/electric company that the insurance company paid and asked for a letter stating that this claim has been satisfied. I was hoping that the adjusters' email stating that he "personally" paid the claim would be good enough..I'm just exhausted cry
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#728120 - 11/29/11 10:44 PM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: StormChaser]
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Wow StormChaser....I just read this entire thread and the situation seems to get more surreal by the moment. I think you are getting a raw deal here. I don't have much advice to give except to hang in there and fight for your survival. I hope there is justice on your behalf soon.
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#733113 - 12/22/11 08:17 PM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: StormChaser]
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Amoeba

Registered: 03/13/11
Posts: 65
Loc: Pennsylvania, USA
My court date to go before the judge was on November 15th and it wasn't what I expected. I had to pay a fine of around $1300.00 to be accepted into the program and I was put on probation for 2 years with 200 hours community service (which I think is extensive). After I was finally starting to get a grip on everything that has happened, another "DOWNER" has occurred. Please note that this accident happened in March of this year and I continued to work and have my job.

I was just informed "BY PHONE" this past Monday that my employers insurance carrier has decided to drop me due to an unacceptable drivers record and that I am no longer employed. I told my boss that it was totally unprofessional to give me this information over the phone and that it should have been done in person. He said he just got the info. and had to contact me ASAP. I also received a letter from my company stating the same.

I think this is all I needed to go over the edge. The week before xmas I am told of this and I am now unemployed. My DH also just had foot surgery and is out of work for about a month. I do not know how to cope with all this, as my mind controls my body and it doesn't look promising.
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#734103 - 12/26/11 03:14 PM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: StormChaser]
Debbie-SpiritualityEditor Offline
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Elephant

Registered: 01/08/10
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I am really surprised that your attorney could not do more for you. This is terrible. I wish I had something more to say, but I don't. I just can't believe it. I am so sorry.
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#736427 - 12/31/11 06:25 PM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: StormChaser]
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Gecko

Registered: 05/12/10
Posts: 444
Loc: Alabama
StormChaser, I'm so shocked and saddened by the way things have worked out in this case. It seems so unfair. If I were you, I would consult with another attorney. I agree with Cassie in that it seems your attorney could've done more for you. There is such a thing as malpractice in the law field, too. Most attorneys (I think) will still do phone consultations free of charge. Even if you have to pay a consultation fee, it would be worth it, if you could get your job back.

I wish I had more to offer you, but it's the only thing I can think of. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. I will be praying for you and your family.

In the way of depression, remember that it's important that you take care of yourself. The more depressed you are, the more difficult it will be for you to do anything about your situation. Try to get some exercise and get outside in the sunshine for a while each day. Read my article on SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). SAD I know that your depression isn't necessarily seasonal, but there are some good tips in that article.

I'm still hopeful that this can work out for the best for you, StormChaser. Sometimes we have to go through hard times in order to appreciate good ones. I believe that good things are ahead for you. Hang in there! Tomorrow begins a new year, and I'm trusting that it will be a good one for you! smile
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#736518 - 12/31/11 08:45 PM Re: LIFE CHANGING EVENT..NEED HELP! [Re: StormChaser]
missyT Offline
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Registered: 04/09/09
Posts: 397
Isn't the ARD program in PA for first time DUI offenders? I'm pretty certain that's what it's for. I just looked it up, and that's what it's for.


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