I don't love golf, but I play with my husband because it's something we can do together on the weekend. I'm frustrated because he's much better than me. He's probably frustrated because I can't keep up.
We've found a happy compromise where we both hit the best ball every shot. So if I hit a drive up the middle, and he's off in the trees, we'll both hit the next shot from my ball, and so on. It's really actually quite fun.
As far as instruction, I think it's always tough to teach a spouse, but you can survive it if are able to stay positive. Keep in mind that no matter how good you are, and no matter how good your husband is, the guys are always going to hit longer than women. It's just the way it is.
I am a really competitive person, and I have a difficult time watching my husband hit consistently over 300 yards and mine doesn't even go 200. We'll definitely keep playing together, but I think it would be fun to find a group of ladies who play closer to the same level.
Good luck!