Hello Optimus, fore most I'd like to offer you my compassion for you; to read of the distress your experiencing. The position you're in isn't an easy one, I can relate whole heartedly. Please be aware that your life- your opinion- your needs and wants are your first priority. You will be living the life you decide from here on out. I suggest finding a peaceful space to spend time alone. Perhaps, finding a professional listener; to assist you through this decision process, you may find this to be helpful. Please be aware that opinions exists, however the number one opinion that counts the most and affects you the greatest, is your own. One last thing, we all will have pressures that complicate us emotionally and psychologically. Remain true and the very best of friends with yourself; especially during times such as these. May you find your strength and make peace with your predicament. Sincerely, Laugh P S Big Hug

Why are you having a baby you don't want.

Do you live in a state where you need his permission?

Why didn't you tell them to just shut the hell up?

Don't kill yourself. There are suicide hotlines that can help and you have options; maybe you can put your baby up for adoption. If you are really desperate, then look into whether or not there is a "safe place" law in your state.

It's not your body or your life, it is hers so the decision is hers. It is an option that she has available and she is the one who will have to live with the consequences either way.

What position am I in?

(typed incorrect name)...My responce my meant for Jennyt. writer of this post.

Did you ever consider asking the father to take him more or maybe going to court to force him to take custody (the latter is rare but is certainly does happen). Maybe you could ask (or sue) for child support that you could use to hire a nanny and get back some of your life back.