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Hi I'm new on this site, but was reading some of the other messages, and thought "blimey! i'm not alone!!!" My motto in life, is you can laugh or cry, but crying makes your eyes puffy!! But sometimes i just have to get out the tissues, after 7 miscarriages in two years or so and god knows how many Doctors telling me to go and try again i think i've kept Kleenex in buisness, strangely enough it's only been recently i found a doctor who thought there might be a problem, he told me i faced numerous tests and investigations, many of them not pleasant, but actually wanted to see my husband as well (he was terrified) So at last Someone doesn't think i'm over reacting or that its all my fault!! has anyone been through anything similar? does anyone have any suggestions for me? Does anyone just want to chat about their experiences with this, My husband admits he doesn't like to talk about it, thats his way of dealing, but i want to talk about this, how to deal with everything and how to look forward to the next possibility...

Hi Electra,
As hard and frustrating as it is you have to keep up your spirits and believe that one day your dream really will come true. I have close friend who has been through multiple miscarriages and she is finally pregnant again at 10 weeks. Through her failed pregnancies her doctor finally put her on progesterone tablets the minute she found out she was pregnant. Apparently they will help thicken the lining of the uterus so that it will firmly hold the egg in place when it is implanted in the lining. So far so good for her - this is the longest she's ever been pregnant and she's already had her first ultrasound. Maybe you should ask your doctor about this progesterone treatment and see if it works for you. Wishing you all the best in your quest to be a mom.
Dooby

I am sorry to hear about that. i am glad to hear the doctors are trying to do something now. I hope all goes well and you get your wish to be a mom. I have had one miscarriage and I cannot deal. You are a very strong woman. You have been through so many and still you try that is amazing. You are inspiration for me to try again cause I am scared that it will happen again. Good luck honey!!!

My mom had many miscarriages before me. She was never given the shot for RH- after her first child and just decided she couldn't have anymore kids because she had the first one so young and later a copper IUD that became imbedded in her uterus. When I came along, everybody assumed my blood was RH- after I had my kid it turns out I am O+ so we don't know how I survived, but I did.

Life is strange, and never easy.

Hi Electra.
My heart goes out to you. You certainly are an admirable woman. I hope that you fulfill your desire of becoming a mum soon. I know of a woman who had 9 miscarriages, 1 ectopic pregnancy and the DR's told her she would be unable to have a child. She later, after 15years of 'trying' had a little girl to then 2year after find she was pregnant again. So she now has 2beautiful girls aged 9 and 6.
So there is hope.
Good Luck and Best Wishes. x-x-x

Hi Electra, I am new to this site as well but I definitely know you're pain because my last two consecutive pregnancies both ended in miscarriages. One was at 9 weeks and the other at 5 wks.The strangest part is that I had two children before these miscarriages even occured. (They took YEARS to conceive however...) (My husband and I have two boys ages 7 & 4 and we are desperately trying for a girl.) Anyway I found out just this morning at my dr.appt that I am once again miscarrying and I told the doctor that this is twice in a row now and how I just don't understand what's going wrong with me. He mentioned he wants to run some tests but that he may be putting me on Progesterone. I have been doing a lot of online research today and it seems it's done wonders for many women facing recurrent miscarriages. It may be something for you to look into? My husband never wants to talk about it either, he says he knows it will just upset me and he doesn't want to see me get all worked up, I think a lot of the men react this way too bad they don't get it huh?

Hi Electra,
so sorry to hear of all your losses.I have had 7 miscarriages i'm on my 8th pregnancy now and i'm 15 weeks pregnant and everything going well i still cant believe it. I had all the bloods done etc. nothing came up. i decided to do i.v.f the first attempt i didnt get pregnant so i decided to give 1 more go naturally. They gave my husband anti biotics for 2 weeks because of a high white blood cell count they said that could have caused the sperm to attack the eggs.I didnt need i.v.f to get pregnant but there was more testing involved and for myself i do believe if i hadnt changed doctors to go there i wouldnt have this successful pregnancy as i was the same they kept telling me to keep trying again and again without trying to find out what was wrong.Very frustrating.My hubby is the same the only test he had was chromosome blood test and the sperm test.I wish you luck but i now know its not the impossible which i felt like it was.My full story is in the forum.Good Luck and i hope you have success very soon. Bindi!

Hi Electra, Im new to this forum and came across your post here, I am so sorry for all your losses, I too have had 7 miscarriages in the past 13 years I've had 7 different dr.'s because none of them are testing me or giving me any answers, I have 2 teen boys 16 and 18 I lost 4 at 6 months and the others at 2,3,and 4 months I had a cerclage put in place but that still did'nt work so far I know I have fibroids and an incompetant cervix but other than that they are not telling me anything else , I lost my last one 2005 at 6 months I had to bury 3 already and the hardest part is I lost 1 on christmas 1 on easter and 1 on father's day well I decided to try again at 35 I had my fisrt app. with a dr. who specializes in multiple m/c and fibroids and inc. cervix I went 2 weeks ago for a pap. everything was normal I have to go back next friday Im going to have to demand tests before I try again. im sorry this is so long, I thought I was the only one who's actually had this many m/c and still has the heart and stregnth to try again, good luck to you and let me know what the dr. tells you. god bless and your husband.Dc

I am a 28 year old and I am already a mother of a soon to be 7 year old. I just recently had my 7th miscarriage. It has been so sad for me because I really would like to have at least one more child. I have been with the same man for about 10 years and we love each other very much. I am so sadden by this recent loss that I do not think I can go through this anymore. I can handle the physical pain, it is the emotional pain that I am just exhausted. This last time I got pregnant I tried not to be excited for this very reason. I do not know what's wrong with me....or him...or if it is something more serious (medically). I knew I couldn't have been alone in my situation. I was embarassed to even tell anyone how many miscarriages I have had. I want to talk to my man about it but then again I don't. I know he is hurting too but for me I think it is a much deeper hurt that I can not explain or express to him. I do not know what I should do from here....I want another child but it just seems like it is impossible.

Hi dear, I just had to comment because you are definitely NOT alone. I just had my 6th mc a few days ago. I've seen my Ob/gyn, a hematologist, 2 fertility specialists, and a high-risk pregnancy dr. They've done, I think, every test in the book. I've done the progesterone, I've done Lovenox injections to keep my blood thin, I've done all the vitamin supplements you could imagine. With this most recent mc, everything looked PERFECT. We had a very strong heartbeat, and everything about the pregnancy appeared perfectly normal. Then we went back at 8.5 weeks for the heartbeat to be gone completely. I'm not sure I can put myself through it anymore...like the last person said, it almost gets embarassing to tell people how many mc's we've had. LIke we're doing something wrong, almost. But we're doing everything RIGHT! Anyway, I wish I had advice to offer up, but all I can say is you will be in my prayers & know you're not alone!!