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#655652 - 01/12/11 06:34 PM
Re: early miscarriage feel so helpless
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Hope2
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I too had an early miscarriage in July 2010. I was only about a 1 month along possibly with twins. While the majority of miscarriages are due to chromosomal issues my doctor suggested that mine could have been due to traveling outside the country. My boyfriend was gung ho about taking a trip outside the U.S. I didn't think I was pregnant since I had so many false alarms so I went along, did some horseback riding, driving up tall mountains etc. I felt sick on the plane home and had trouble breathing. While there is controversy with air travel and miscarriages I was told by my OBGYN that her office advises no travel in the 1st and 3rd trimesters. I took a test the next day after arriving back home and it was positive, then confirmed it at my local clinic. I started bleeding 2 days later and rushed to the ER. While the ER doctor was hopeful, I still had a natural miscarriage. It is 5 months now and my body still thinks it is pregnant though I am getting my period but much shorter, my breasts still bother me, my nipples are always sensitive and I get severe nausea before my period. My advice to all women: If you are going to travel and are even half a day late for your menses, PLEASE take a test. I feel so guilty about my miscarriage because perhaps it could have been prevented. Also, if your body or instincts tell you to stay home, no matter what your husband/boyfriend says listen to yourself and don't travel, cancel your trip, there will be other chances to travel. While most miscarriages can't be stopped at least take percaution not to cause one. Thankfully they Bible says that aborted and miscarried babies will be resurrected once again, which gives me hope but that still doesn't help erase my guilt. Thank you and blessings to all who have suffered through a miscarriage. :)
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#656243 - 01/15/11 04:15 AM
Re: early miscarriage feel so helpless
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I came accross this forum as I just had my first and hopefully only miscarriage. Feeling isolated and alone, sad and empty I needed to find somewhere I could openly express myself without any judgement. I found out I was pregnant for the first time just before Xmas 2010. This was the happiest day of my life I did 3 urine tests to confirm my thoughts followed by another urine and blood test at the clinic. I had been wanting to be a mother for so long and this was the ultimate most amazing feeling in the world. I came home that night to tell my partner that we were expecting our first bubs! I was filled with so much excitement and joy words could not possibly describe my feelings. He took a few days to come to terms with the idea, but he started to show his excitement in many ways. So of course being a pregnant woman and on top of the world I started to plan things, I wanted to scream it to the world, we started to inform family, friends, work colleagues etc, I even bought a beautiful cot and changer and started to prepare our spare room for a beautiful baby.
Week 4-5 and I started feeling very sick, nauseus and had to take about 2 weeks off work. After 2 weeks my symptoms started to subside a little and I wondered perhaps was I over the whole 'morning sickness' stage or was something wrong? I had my first dating scan approx 4 weeks I think, they could not see the featus, but said it was just too early and so to come back in a couple of weeks for another.
I came back for a follow up scan and they could see the featus and measured it at 6.3weeks, but could not see/hear a heartbeat. This was quite distressful, and they told us it did not look good. As you can imagine our hearts just dropped and we left feeling so empty, I think we were almost preparing ourselves for the worst. That week I had several blood tests conducted, I felt so confused, angered, sad, worried and simply started losing hope. My hormone levels started to drop, my worst fear had become a reality, friends and family continuously tried to remain and keep me positive but I knew deep down that all hope was lost.
The clinic confirmed my pregnancy was not viable and miscarriage was inevitable. All of a sudden I felt this kind of heart break one cannot describe.
I was referred to The Womans and Childrens Hospital where I was assessed by their doctor and she gave me options on how to proceed, I chose to have the D&C surgery, they booked me in for a D&C operation the following day.
I woke up after the surgery feeling violated, empty and depressed.
3 days later I am feeling so isolated and sad. I never thought this would happen to me, I now look at all my friends who are fortunate enough to have children and hope and pray that I will be lucky enough to have a child.
My partner wants to try again, but later down the track (1-3) years, I however am very keen to try again straight away, I now feel this kind of void that is empty and needs to be filled, I feel lucky that I still have my partner and I love him but as awful as it sounds it's just not enough for me, I will forever remain happy with my partner but unhappy until I can be a mother.
If you are reading this and have been through something similar I would love to hear your happy endings, just to fill my broken heart with hope again.
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#668576 - 03/09/11 01:27 AM
Re: early miscarriage feel so helpless
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I am eighteen years old and have been through the exact same experience as all of you on this, with the exception of I didnt have a D&C, things just happened naturally. I was 7weeks pregnant and experienced light bleeding for 2 days, went to the hospital and was told I was OK and sent home. On the third day however, I experienced extremely heavy bleeding and strong cramps. I went to hospital and was told it was a threatened misscarriage. I went into denial and continued to live life as if I was still pregnant. My partner was upset but supported me- even when I refused to accept the fact we had lost the baby. A few days later I was brought in and misscarriage was confirmed. I fell apart outside the hospital and was in agony, physiccally and mentally, for the next few weeks. As nobody knew about the preganancy, I felt I should carry on normally. I fell pregnant again accidently a few weeks later and am now 26 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. I have been on eggshells the whole time, going to the hospital with the slightest pain. I am delighted about my baby, but I am not over the miscarriage, even writing this I am crying and feel I can't stop. My partner doesn't want me to think about it as I should be happy about the baby we're having, but I just cant get over it. my due date was march 19th, i dont know how i'll handle it.
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#668923 - 03/10/11 01:09 AM
Re: early miscarriage feel so helpless
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I had a miscarriage right at 12 weeks and was totally devastated. I opted for the D&C when they saw no viable fetus on the ultrasound and my body had been carrying on thinking it was pregnant for 5 weeks without a proper miscarriage. Initially I was happy with my choice of the D&C, but now I wish I had just let my body work through it. i feel like my pregnancy just got erased. Worse yet, after the first week of sympathetic and awkward looks from people, it's like they just assume you're fine and if you bring it up, they get totally awkward about it. I dare say this is the most isolating experience of my life. My sympathies go out to all of you, but somehow it's nice just knowing that I'm not alone...that there are other women out there who get it. My mom told a friend of hers about my experience and found out that she had 4 miscarriages before she had 2 healthy babies. She remembers each and every one of them, particularly on their due dates. My baby's due date was supposed to be 2 days before my existing son's birthday. I think that will be a very hard week for me. I wanted so much to give him a sibling for his birthday. He'd been asking me for one for 2 years...I was so excited to be able to give that to him, to explore my baby's face and every nook and cranny of that baby, to watch that baby grow up and learn who he or she was. I get angry that there are not group counseling services or something for women who lose pregnancies. I feel like the only people who can possibly understand the loss and debilitating grief and sorrow are the others on this forum.
I wondered if I would ever feel better. My D&C was on January 3rd. I am finally feeling better. Am able to function. But thoughts of the baby crowd in on me all the time. I'm so thankful for the other women here who are sharing their stories.
For those of you who feel ready to try again right away (I'm not feeling ready unfortunately) my OBGYN said that after the D&C or miscarriage you can start again after the first period. I have a friend who had 3 miscarriages and then got pregnant within 6 weeks of her last miscarriage and now has a healthy baby girl. Everyone's body is different, but apparently some doctors say to wait 3 months until trying again to let the uterus 'settle'. My OB said that is usually the advice because they think women aren't psychologically ready to get pregnant until then. Well, I honestly think each of us knows when she is ready. So if you are trying again I wish you every success in your recovery, your future pregnancy, and that you have healthy babies in your future.
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#669303 - 03/11/11 05:08 PM
Re: early miscarriage feel so helpless
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I just experienced a miscarriage on Jan. 25 at 12 weeks. I have 4 children. My second pregnancy I had what was called a vanishing twin at 8 weeks, but carried out and delivered my heazlthy son Ashtyn, who is 9. At that time, I wasn't very sad, as i had not yet heard 2 heartbeats, and ended up with a baby in the end. This time, after 2 more healthy pregnancies, was much different, as i heard a heartbeat, and saw the baby and heartbeat on ultrasound. I woke up early in the morning with cramps that were annoying and felt like they were in my lower back. I thought maybe it was just my back aching, (as I have lower back pain often normally) or that maybe it was gas or something. So I tried to go back to sleep. My 1 year old woke up at 5 per usual, so still crampy, I went to feed him a bottle. The pain was getting worse. my husband came downstairs, and asked if I still was having pain, and I said yes, let me lie down on the couch as it was coming and going like contractions. Just as I was about to tell him, maybe we should call the dr., it felt like when your water breaks. A gush of liquid came out and I ran upstairs to the toilet. My underwear were soaked with clear fluid. I was scared and phoned the dr, got answering service and was waiting for a call back. II was very scared. Then I looked down and there was this thick, mucus like string hanging out of me with what looked like tissue at the end. As I was told to go to the hospital immediately on the phone, this gush of blood came out and did not stop. At hospital I was losing so much blood so quickly, I was about to pass out, they started 2 ivs and pain medication. They confirmed I was miscarrying via ultrasound. No d&e was performed, dr. said let it take its course. However they wanted to give me a bag of blood as I came in at a normal number of 12 and within hours went down to a 6.2. I refused it cause I am always scared of disease. So they gave me iron supplements and kept me overnight. They gave me medicine in suppository form, as they came to find tissue and placenta were stuck in my uterus. I was sent home the next day. As of last week my hcg levels finally hit under 5 and are back to normal, although i am still bleeding and have only not bled about 5 days since the miscarriage. It has been a total of almost 7 weeks since that day. My blood level is only at an 8. They put me on birth control pills to try to regulate my hormones back to normal, and I am still waiting for the bleeding to stop. This has been such a sad, traumatic experience for me, and I feel for all of you as well. Nobody knows what it is like, until you experience this kind of loss yourself. I am sorry for all of your losses as well. Have any of you had issues with the constant on and off bleeding? I dont know if I will try again as of now I am very scared after this, yet feel i want one more child. I am on an emotional rollercoaster. Best wishes to all of you and i now know I am not alone. God bless:)
Last edited by cmlong3; 03/11/11 05:11 PM.
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Melatonin
by Nancy Roussy. Sleep Disorders 04/20/18 10:25 PM
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