Hello Ladies.......wow, you are all Members of the Awful Club. I have been a member since 1974 when my father accidentally flew his airplane into the ground, killing himself, my mother and my two sons, ages 4 and 9. I am 67 now and can say to you that the pain does change, there is a purpose in what has occured in your lives, and you are strong enough to stand your loss. Folly, huh? No. I was fortunate enough to have had a strong, shall we say, metaphysical component to this event, which would take a while to speak about, but those factors helped me deal with this experience.
I never had any more children because I was the only child and had a brother die before I was born, so there was a wee bit of pressure on me and I didn't know how I would handle that trip for another Soul. I wished I could lift you all into later life so you could see how much you were needed Here because you are each unique and without you, what would we do? You bring special talents and ways of Loving to this earth school, and your children who graduated want you to complete your classes and know that they are fine.
They will come to you in dreams and various other disguises, so come up for air and be comforted. Find ways to honor your child that will benefit other people or animals for that matter. Everyone has a nearly impossible burden to carry, but we carry it because it is our job, our Gift to others on this journey. I have absolute faith and knowledge that you all are strong enough to endure what has happened and I know that it is not easy. Always wanted to design a T-shirt about being a member of the club because it makes people uncomfortable, so why not just let it hang out there and be proud of your strength! Not everyone is called upon to endure this. Now, all of you get the help that you need to get through the day, and to not hurt the other ones you love, or to blame them, and you'll see your compassion grow like a beautiful blossom for others who face similar or even completely different horror shows and you'll know what to say and when to say it.
Talk to your children who have passed, I salute you and your strength and am proud to be able to even know you know you in this small way. Everything is going to be all right. I will promise you that. Now have some chocolate. RNConnie