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There is a delightful Corn Festival going on right now and the whole town is there. I can go cover it on my local town blog and i would enjoy the event.

And my neighbors invited me to join them after at the Salt Mine Cellars Bar. I am sure it will be fun.

Why can't I make myself leave my home and go have fun? This happens a lot. I usually go with it by not leaving the house.

I don't have an answer for you sweetie, but wanted to tell you I have agoraphobia & rarely leave the house.

If you ever want to talk/vent, I'm here! *Hugs*

Do you have "Anxiety Attacks", Jilly?

I often have these attacks and it keeps me inside, too. Even with family gatherings I sometimes have to stay home alone because of these anxiety attacks. Check with your doctor. This condition is more common than people think and can be easily helped.

I even spent one whole Christmas day (also my birthday) alone because of an anxiety attack. I am doing much better now with medication, a good doctor and my family understanding.

Jilly, my doctor put me on a therapeutic dosage of Klonipin and it has really been helping me. It is not such a high dose that it makes me sleepy, and I take it twice a day.

I used to take it only when I had a panic attack, but she said it really does very little good then, that it works better this way - and she's right!

Thanks for the support guys! Yes, I get anxiety attacks. I do have Ativan for when it gets bad.

I think not making myself leave the house is good for me. I might have had fun going out, but staying in when I feel like that is probably the best thing for me.

Mostly I am comfortable staying right here. I think it's leftover anxiety from DH making me move all the time. I think I will give myself some time - lots of it - to start to heal from that.

Definitely you deserve a LOT of healing time right now. You have a new home! It's great that you love your new home! Give yourself the time to really revel in the hominess of what you have, the snuggly feeling you have being there, the comfort and safety.

I agree. Staying in your home is not a bad thing and is often very comforting -- giving you the time you need to heal.

My famly has finally gotten used to the idea that there are times when I just must stay home in my "cozy, comfort zone". I live alone and make my home uniquely and solely mine by the way I decorate and I love it! It gives me peace. And, when I do go out I am always happy to come back to this peaceful home.

This may be over the top, but what I get is that you are an open wound. Past, way past, present and projective.

Many of us are and don't know it.

It's catagorized as agoraphobia and anxiety which may in itself be true, but why, that is the answer to the culpret that makes us that way and those that are more open or are sensitve and have sensitive roots, have a tendency to be that.

Sometimes I want to sleep in a closet. Ironically my husband and I were talking about this exact same thing tonight.

There was more...

something in the past. It was harsh. Protection and control trace back from then to now. Why it feels bad to go out into public/chaos. You want to protect.

The Soul is hearty, principles, vision, grounding, but this feels like something that side-swiped in the past so overcoming in perfection is also in there. So, comfort in being told what to do at the same time fighting that, at least for me, for whatever reason, feels to be worth looking into as to current situaitons??? Sorry it's so bold - got a bit carried away

Right, thanks guys - i do think I should not force myself to go out and socialize just yet. I want to feel safe and i want to work on my yard...and that is pretty much it. And sleep. :-)

Eleise, yes, i am an open wound. I hate it. i feel like i am always rubbing my wound on everyone too, which is gross if you think about it.

I love closets too. I always crawl into tiny spaces when i feel emotionally unsafe.

As for the other points, there's something there that feels like truth. Side swiped. harsh. protect. The word comfort stands out for me too. Thank you.