I've been a step mom for almost four years. I've been active in both my stepson's life (my husband and I have custody) for the last six years. (They were four and six, when I started dating their dad.) They go to their mom's house every weekend (during the week she doesn't call).
Today is my day off. But my youngest step son (he's 9) has been screaming all day at everyone and now my head throbs. My family thinks he has borderline personalities. One minute he's fine, the next minute he's screaming at the top of his lungs. He's talking back and snapping his "two cents" in when I discipline. He's been putting words in my mouth and thoughts in his own head.
A few weeks ago, he told me "I hate you. You're not my mother and you'll never be apart of this family" (regardless that I already am), he's told his own father "I hate you, I wish you'd die at work. Well not really". The think-before-you-speak-button, isn't there with him. Maybe it's his age, maybe it's something more?
All I know, is every week is harder on me. Two years ago, I visited a chiropractor for my back (bending at work) only to discover how much pain there is in my neck and shoulders (stress?). Last year, I got an eye infection (in both eyes) only to find out the next day (2nd visit) that I developed an ulcer in my eye. I fear it might be back now. My husband and I are even talking about having a child together. But with the way, my step son has been acting, I'm a little fearful.
Just needed to vent... I'm sure I'll be back.
