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What customs do you follow during the Christmas holidays?

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I am so happy you brought this up. I was curious about that, too. This year we are planning on something different, which is a bit intimidating for me. I'm so used to doing most of the holidays with my family and visiting his family on Christmas Eve for a little while, but this year we're doing it differently.

Thanksgiving, I'm still not sure what we're doing. I don't even know if I'm supposed to cook something or what I'm supposed to cook if we go with his family. Same issue for Christmas. I don't understand their holiday customs, yet.

In the past, the men went in one room to drink and smoke while the women were in another room with all the kids and doing all the cooking. I usually end up sitting in silence, really bored, because I have nothing to say and I really hate segregation of the sexes. Especially when they only crack the door open and yell, "Mija, traeme una cerveza!" and that's all I hear from my husband the whole night. That is not my idea of holiday fun. Plus, keeping my kids up until midnight when I have to deal with them on Christmas morning isn't fun either.

What is the traditional holiday for a Hispanic household? I don't even really know it, except what I've been exposed to, which I doubt is the traditional approach.

The only food I know for the holidays is pazole, but if it's not at my house, I'm not cooking it, so I don't know what to bring. Any ideas?

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I know about the posada. That is where people knock on neighbor's doors asking if there is room at the inn. I do not know how this concludes exactly.

Here is a site about Christmas in Mexico

What you need to do is find a custom you might want to incorporate into your life and see if you can get it started with the family. Since there are lots of children (do you have children?), get them involved. Since you're bored, make your own amusement - children can be a lot of fun. See if you can find another lady there to help you.

See if the ladies will help you with the language - Say, 'despacio, por favor' (slow please). If you're willing, they will be willing to help you.
Ask them to show you how to make specialty dishes or crafts. This has to be a two-way street - you're going to have to make a tremendous effort if you want this to work.



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I have children, yes, and they're a handful, which does not allow me to relax while I'm there. I understand and speak Spanish fluently. That's not the issue.

I think that I find it hard to find common ground when I don't have my husband supporting me or helping me before he ditches me with a bunch of strangers who are not interested in my being there.

I understand that I have to make an effort and I am doing that, but I don't like it because I'm not getting much response back, so I'm pedaling one way right now.

I'm going to look at the site you plugged in and gather a few other ideas, hopefully.

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It's hard to say what the answer is for you. Perhaps you can devote your time to the children - do some crafts with them - kids can be fun and they are generally open and loving.

Perhaps you can have a traditional American holiday at your house next time and put everyone to work.



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