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What, in your opinion are some good reasons to ask for a divorce?

Control and manipulation on the level of emotional abuse.

abuse, mutual dislike, unresolve conflict that has been dragging on for years

One partner wants to leave to be with another person and marry that person.

As long as the reason is convincing, it can even be made up! Many third parties aren't interested in the reason, only how the finances and children are taken care of! _________________________ www.mylifeafterdivorce.com

Cheating. Why stay with someone who is not made for marriage.

susan & cartomance both have the reasons listed that I left. What was particularily difficult for me was my religion. I was Catholic and had really had marriage and the fact that divorce would boot you out of good graces to say the least, prevent me from getting a divorce sooner. It wasn't until my ex-watched me fall down the stairs when I was pregnant laughing and then later step over my body that I said to myself, "God couldn't have gone to the trouble to give me life just to have this man take it from me" that I finally left.

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Elleise
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When only one is making an effort- it is like beating a dead horse. We had problems and I made the effort to keep it together. He didn't make any effort and the relationship finally fell apart to the point there was nothing left to save. I feel that besides abuse and cheating- taking your spouse for granted is the cancer in a marriage. When you overlook the small things that make a relationship healthy and act as if no matter what - he/she is gonna be there, well then that is a sure recipe for divorce. I always said, "It's not the getting, it's the keeping where all the hard work comes into play." If you are only making the effort to establish but not to maintain, then what can you conclude as an end result?

Substance abuse / addiction issues where the partner with the problem refuses to quit.

What about if one partner discovers they are infertile and the other has a wish for a family but the infertile one does not wish to adopt? I only say that cos its something my hubby and I are discussing. Not divorcing but the very real possibility that he wont have the family he wants. I dont feel right forcing him to stay with me when I know its not something I want and would feel comfortable letting him find someone he can love and have a family with if that is what he wants. So, that I could see being a good reason to divorce..