I'm sorry to hear you have something you're worrying about looming on the horizon, Navigaar - there's such a lot of time in which to worry, too, before the Fall. Maybe there's some kind of relaxing process or meditation routine that you could teach yourself that might help. If you worry from now all the way until then you'll be exhausted when you get there!
I totally understand the hating dependence thing, as I am the same as you in that respect. Are there measures you could maybe put in place that could ease the situation? What about making sure you have somewhere to retreat to if you feel like screaming at the time? Sometimes just knowing you have a bolthole makes things more bearable even if you don't actually use it.
I'm sending positive vibes your way.
Susan
She did make some good points. One, about solving the problem as you worry. I do that a lot. But I can't set aside a specific time to worry. It seems to come and go when it wants to.
When my worrying is getting Extreme I have to give myself a jolt back into reality about the issue and do the Flow-Chart thing. You know, the What IF...What IF..... Usually this gives me a few solutions to the thing I am worrying about and that in itself decreases my worrying.
I have something scary coming up this Fall that I am really dreading. But in itself it's going to solve some problems for me but I have to go through this medical procedure which is going to involve a healing period afterwards. I am worried I won't wake up from the procedure and I am also worrying about afterwards. I won't be as able to do for myself as I am right now, for a while. I hate feeling helpless and dependent on other people. I am very independent.
