Sorry it has taken me so long to respond. It is good to be back and into the swing of things though.
Lynn is absolutely right, however, I would like add a few other points to ponder as you pray and seek God's guidance in your walk for Christ.
First of all, I would like to applaud both of you for choosing abstinence before marriage. However, when you live together before marriage, you leave yourself open to temptation. Since you are serious about reserving sex for marriage, it is a dangerous situation living and sharing the same bed with the person you love and to whom you are sexually attracted.
Not to mention, the Bible says we should avoid even the appearance of evil. (Ephesians 5:3; 1 Thessalonians 5:22). The decisions we make do affect those around us. What kind of an example does your choice to live together set for younger people and unbelievers who are watching? How will people view your relationship who do not know about your commitment to abstain sexually? Our testimony as a Christian affects how people view Christ and the church. So many people have rejected Christianity because they do not see people living it out walking in the victory and power of the Holy Spirit they profess.
Living together is pretending to be married, but living together and marriage are not the same thing. In essence, it is making a mockery of marriage and therefore dishonors marriage. This goes against Hebrews 13:4 which says: �Let marriage be honored by all.� It is a sorrowful situation when a couple who lives together and finally get married say, �Marriage is not that different from living together.� Unfortunately, they have missed out on the joy and uniqueness of the marriage relationship which God intended for them.
Here are some great articles from Focus on the Family about biblical dating I would like to share with you. I hope you enjoy them:
Biblical Dating by Scott Croft
Stop Test Driving Your Girlfriend by Michael Lawrence
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