Maybe it is time to forgive yourself.
Do what you do, as in light a candle for the baby, say a prayer, meditate, confess, whatever it is that you possibly do to connect with creator.
Write a letter, put everything into it that you are feeling, write it to the baby or to the father or one to each. When you are done with it, tuck it into a safe place, or even burn it.
Even though it wasn't what you wanted, it has what made you who you are today and started you on the path to where you are.
You may even want to consider seeing a psychiatrist to help you with your feelings and your dreams. But that may take years, and would probably get you a sleeping pill script that would suppress all the dreams and not let you face them as Eleise recommended (and I second btw).