I agree with encouraging kids to talk to parents. But, I'm trying to point out that most kids end up with situations in their lives that they feel afraid or uncomfortable talking about with their parents. It can happen to families with the best intentions, and very open parent/child relationships. To deal with those times, it's good to have extended family or friends who are willing to be sounding boards for kids. Parents who communicate well and often with their kids are just as susceptible as parents who don't to this sort of thing, ironically enough because of the openness. Say you've told your kids where you stand on many issues. Maybe your kids are curious about other stands. Because they know what you think already, they might not want to talk to you. What then? Telling your kids that they can tell you anything only goes so far. They aren't dumb. They can figure out what you think on subjects, and if they're considering something that doesn't agree with your thoughts, they will take the immature route, and assume that you will be upset with them. It's normal, but it gets kids into trouble when they're left with just their friends as sounding boards.