Hi there, I am new to this forum and need some feedback from you all. I am a greatful 43 yr old female that has been clean/sober for 3 yrs and 28 days.
My 21 yr old niece (my sister's daughter) is returning willingly to rehab (meth is her drug of choice) for her second time but she is now a mother of 1 year old son. She had a 5 day wait period before entering rehap and last Friday she asked if I would go to an NA meeting w/ her for support, I said "of course". At about a half hour before I was supposed to pick her up, she called and asked if I would meet her at the meeting location because she was going to drive two (guy) friends who needed a ride to the meeting. I felt an immediate uneasiness and asked if these two friends were the guys she used meth (her dealers) with and she said yes but they both have at least 60 days sober, and that they were staying sober as a team. I asked if they were court ordered to attend or are they going willingly, she said they were court ordered. I told her that I felt uncomfortable with her decision and I think she should detach or stay away from these associations and find another meeting.
She thinks these guys are so cool and they know her like no one else and that I am the one that is being judgemental and closed minded. I sent an email to me sister w/ my explanation and concern. She said that indeed she and my Niece were disappointed that I would be closed minded and judge her by not going to the meeting because those guys were attending too.
Is it me?
If nothing changes, nothing changes.