Hi, Irish6605. Let me first say, I'm no expert but have had friends with similar experiences and what they later found out was that their mate was unhappy and selfish.
They continue to blame themselves for not seeing the signs but for some reason, they put all the blame on themselves and over and over again,try to remedy the problem by "trying to make the mate happy". It all comes to no avail.
Try a sit down with your mate and ask if there is something bothering him (job, friend, new family...) and go from there. If he's inclined to open up, follow his lead but if he refuses and wants to remain withdrawn, then you definitely have a problem on your hand.
I thought once you're married, the "I's and me's" are out the window and its now "ours". You might wanna remind him that what he does or pays for, is for the entirety of the family. Reading your situation could make one wary of his true love for all of you. Just a thought.
He may just be dealing with pain or maybe even regret about some things. I dunno but I do suggest you relay your true feelins with humility as you converse with him and hopefully healing can begin.
Last edited by Kimmie08; 11/20/08 02:15 PM.