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Hi John,
If it is all possible, have one of your kids or grandkids to keep your company.
It was extremely lonesome in the first few months. I had to request my kids to spend time with me; just staying beside me; talking; walking after each meal; continued to have family devotion by reading the Bible and praying together before bedtime etc.
My tears would sometimes rolled while I was driving to work or after work. At the moment, always thought of the wonderful days my late wife spent together in the hospital; her last few blessed months on earth. Did not know that men could cry so easily. I think I cried more after her passing as compared to all those past 50 years..ha..ha...Maybe could have kept my tears in a bottle as King David would have done so in Psalms.
I have confined my social needs to some of the church members and they have been very encouraging in remembering us in prayers.
After 3 or 4 months, I began to register with a Dating Agency and met up with some interesting divorcees, singles with different set of cares and concerns. They are also just as lonely as us but probably much more lesser, I think. They too have been very sympathetic with us as widows or widowers.
Just let your emotion run naturally, cry if need be and find someone to talk to. At least I have God to communicate daily and at anytime.
Keep on writing and share your thoughts. There are many others like us who could uplift one another. Cheers!

Time has passed by very quickly. Very soon looking forward to the 3rd Loving Anniversay Memory of my beloved wife in a few days time. Still miss her very...very.......much......

"Where are you my dear? Sleep tight and good night." These are the usual words expressed from my heart almost daily every night..

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sometimes it helps to ask aloud what your loved one would want you to be doing. then have quiet time. you'll be amazed at the result.

note: quiet time means no tv, phone, computer. maybe some low volume instrumental music. clear your brain. stop making lists, stop thinking. just "be" for 15 minutes. naps work, too!