I read your e-mail. I am a cofident, sexy 43 year old women with the same insecurities. I have been married to my husband for 21 years!I will try and help you, only because you asked.First thing, this family has this dynamic long before you were in the picture.I call it DRAMA! and City Drama is NO different then Country Drama,So I would go buy myself the sexiest dress and shoes and pretend that this was the first night your husband was ever to see you, don't play to these people, and certainly not this ex- wife! You sound like a real nice gal,and make no mistake simple is a nice quality.So keep it simple.
I know from lots of expereience, I have played to my husbands family for 20 years, and they still don't let me in,But my Man loves me,I think he likes the fact that I dress for him,Don't lose who you are to try and win others.Have fun and enjoy the journey, My favorite thing to do is to just watch and observe. Now their wondering how I feel about them. Hmmm? How 20 years of maturity can change the course, Remeber it's a process to have relationship with people, they will respect you for staying true to you, and if their all really nuts! Drink a glass of wine, Wear sexy shoes and have fun!