Hi there
Many people feel they can only gain respect by intimidation (others by manipulation) because they don't realise there is any other way. Like everything else, it's based in Self Esteem.
People who use intimidation or manipulation to get respect, loyalty or obedience have a basic
subconscious belief that they
don't deserve or are
not entitled to respect, loyalty or obedience automatically. Therefore, they assume there's no way the other person is simply going to give it to them - so they have to find a way to
take it!
I don't know if you've ever seen
"The Dog Whisperer"? There is a lot that we can learn and apply to our Human relationships from Cesar Mallan, as well as applying it to dog-human relationships.
The
most Valuable lesson from Cesar, which applies to human relationships as well as dogs, is the energy of
"Calm-Assertive".Anyone who is wanting to gain respect - and this is especially important of course for
parents, teachers, bosses - anyone who's job depends on retaining respect and authority - needs to learn to adopt this "Calm-Assertive" energy.
A Calm-Assertive energy
compels people to VOLUNTARILY GIVE respect and loyalty, whereas bullying, demanding, intimidating and threatening
tries to
TAKE respect and loyalty. And of course, what they get instead of Respect and Loyalty is Fear and Resentment.
It's like going into a
bank and
holding up the cashier to take out
your own money! lol
If you fill in the withdrawal slip, and ask for your money, the cashier will happily hand it over. But a person who doesn't know that, and
believes that they're not entitled to their money, may well believe that since they're not good enough, there's no way anyone will
just give it to them if they ask ... they may well believe the
only way to get it is to
force the cashier to hand it over!
Calm-Assertive. It's really worth watching Cesar Mallan, and applying his energy to all human relationships.
Love and Light and Magic xxx
