Hi Diana,
I'm glad to hear you are doing as best you can, looking at the positives in a darker situation. You do have a lot of good advice here and friends to bounce things off of.
These women and the posts I've read here, come with a lot of experience and wisdom to share support.
Stephanie, especially has a valid point when it comes to saving marriage that comes down to what exactly that will mean in the future.
I've personally known women who have stayed married and have that on the outside to commend but on the inside live an extrememly lonely, isolated and submissive life. Their lives completely snuffed out from under them, but they can say they stayed married.
I've known a man that demanded his wife of 10 years, leave her friend or he would divorse her, just to keep his house of control under wraps. I've personally had a husband that admitted to me, deep down, he was unhappy because whatever he did, it was never as positive as something I would do or be commended on. His words, "I feel like I'm riding on the back of your coat tails."
I believe in marriage we come together initially out of love and even if it should end there is still love. There are rough patches in any relationship, but, as one poster suggested, what would you tell a good friend or daughter that was going through this?
When something begins crushing the human spirit, it really makes you wonder why and wether or not the situation as a whole could be that much better without it.
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Elleise
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