HI,
Well, we really dont' know the whole story, do we? I think you are being rather harsh on her. Yes, protection of the kids should be the 1st priority. But, she might have had a good reason for doing this. Not all Mother's & Father's care about thier kids. Also, her kids did hear all the gossip. They seen stuff too. She might just pick the wrong type of men. She should find out why. But I never seen any info about her cheating on her husbands. He is the 1 who cheated. They probably had problems for a long time.
Not all women or men will divorce right away. Who knows, maybe she was trying to save the marriage & he just did what he wanted. It takes 2 to make a marriage. You can't just blame her. You say "women like her" but you don't really know her. You are making assumptions about her. Again, she was not the 1 cheating on him. He probably was messing around with the nanny while the kids were around.
We are all human & many men & women do things out of revenge. I'm not saying it is the right thing to do. In some cases it may be the best thing to do. Maybe she did it to protect her kids. You don't know. I don't know. I think that you are being too judgemental on her. Not enough on him. He was the 1 who broke trust in the marriage & his wedding vows. This was probably not the 1st time. I don't want to argue with you about this.
It is good that you are proud of yourself for taking the high road & your husband loves your child & is a good, loving father. But everyone is not like that. Ms. Brinkley got custody of the kids & he was paid alot of $. I don't know if he wants to or will see his kids or not.
I also think that alot of women don't like women who are beautiful. I think some women think that they have it made in the shade. It is not always like that. Ms. Brinkley has a right to make her own choices & live with that. I feel sorry for all of them. They all need some type of therapy.
You also told me that me & other women give her carte blanc to take revenge actions. She never asked for my approval to do what she did. I'm not giving anyone any stamp of approval. You dont' have to agree with me. But you seem very harsh if people don't agree with you. I have some news for you, many men take revenge too for different reasons. Also it might not be in a court or in public. There are some men who go as far as to hire someone to kill their spouse or they do it themselves. Some women do this too.
So, women are not the only people who commit revenge actions. I will stick up for Ms.Brinkley for not cheating. I could be wrong, but I never heard of that. It usually takes 2 people to make a marriage or break it. But sometimes 1 person in the marriage keeps doing things, such as cheating etc. Then they pretend to be sorry & keep doing it again. As, I already mentioned, maybe she was trying to save the marriage.
Let's face it we all judge people to a certain extent. But I am proud of myself that I try to see things from all sides. THere are some cases where we have to have harsh reactions. I hope that women will stay away from him too. But in reality that won't happen.
It comes down to this, you did what was best for you. Ms. Brinkley did what is best for her. Not everyone will do things the way that you or I think is the best way. Again, I dont' want to argue with you. You are entitled to your opinion, just as I am. But I dont appreciate you putting me in a category of giving my approval for people to take revenge. People do that every day whether you like it or not. None of us are perfect. I'm sure that everyone who reads these forums have made mistakes & choices that they were not proud of. It does not make them less of a person.
Also at times, revenge can be a good thing. It all depends on the situation & what is done. Sometimes, some people deserve it. In Ms. Brinkley's situation we may never know the whole story. We don't know her personally. But she did what was right for her & maybe her kids at the time. I think that she had a good reason. Maybe it was not all for revenge. Well, I dont' want to keep going on about it.
I do respect your opinion but I disagree with some of it. In a way you sound very harsh about it. It is almost as if you do have it in for Christie B. because she is beautiful & has alot going for her. That does not make her wrong or a bad person. Well, we will have to agree to disagree. Have a good day & night. Judy K. Chicago.