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All that avice sounds sound and good too me too. Well said people!
Especially about the running to parents. Asking for help and guidance is one thing. Gossip/strife is another. Maybe he is finding it hard though, all new responsiblilty, relationship with new wife ect AND deployment issuse. You both are having to sort out a tremendous amount. Be kind and loving and GENTLE on yourselves. You can do it. Remember, Rome was not built in a day; Patience, Love, Understanding and Honour,these are learnt and chosen, they do not come easily.

I should have said sooner thank you for all of your advice. we've made it though our one year anniversary, but barely. I know he's been talking to other women, and have a confirmation from his family, and he's been on at least one singles site. he's told everyone but me that he wants a divorce, but when we're together he still talks about our future and acts as if nothing is wrong to the point where I almost let go of my hurt and anger and thought everything was ok. luckily I still have the mind to remember, he has been doing things behind my back and I can't let him hurt me again. please help.

Divorce is not the end of life; see it as a new beginning and a chance to take care of your own wants and needs. If he is not the man for you no amount of wanting him will make him "the one."
You deserve better.

Make you priority number one. Join a gym for social and health reasons, get a massage and visit a salon for a new "you." Then decide what you really want to do with your life so that you can be happy, healthy, and on strong ground.

Best of luck with everything. Remember-you are the only one who can make you happy!

HELLO,
I agree with everything Kristen told you. Your husband seems very immature. I would tell him if he wants a divorce then "let's see a lawyer." You can always try therapy. But some how I dont' think that will change things. But a divorce is not the end of the world. Do you really want to go through another year, just barely making it?

Please do put yourself 1st & what is best for you. His actions are very immature & self-centered. Good luck with everything. Keep us posted. You really don't deserve to be treated this way at all. Judy K. Chicago.