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Have not moved it today!!!! Of course it's really easy when you don't talk to anyone but i will take my small victories. :-)

That is awesome Jilly, well done! Sometimes it can be challenging even when alone not to talk negatively, so definitely count that as a victory!

I definitely agree with taking it just one day at a time. Just focus on today.

Interestingly I have several bracelets now and people will comment on them, and I'll explain what they are about. People are generally impressed with the idea and want to give it a try. So even just wearing the bracelets can spread the contentment!

In case you thought I forgot, I have your bracelet specs right here on my desk and will someday make you one

Awww, thank you. i love the idea of the custom stones for different virtues.

Have not moved the bracelet yet today!

I had an interesting conversation with my parents a few days back. We were going for a long drive and my dad brought up an old, old grievance he held against my BIL. I told him that it was time to let that go, it was a long time again, things are different now. i told him a conversation to beat the horse wasn't going to go anywhere positive and that I am trying actively to be positive in my life.

It felt so amazing to say that to him. my mom was listening to, I think with awe. No one had ever said anything like that in my family. Ever. It was a brand new concept.

i felt very empowered to say something that meant so much to me that I think they actually HEARD. I am sure it will come up again but i feel proud of myself for making this attempt. Usually we all enjoy ragging on the old dead horse and beat away.

I will try. Sounds good.

This week I had my hubby move back in, a friend stay with us in the RV for four days and i spent yesterday evening with my family. Suffice to say the bracelet moved so much I just had to take it off until I was alone again.

I can start to see why monks retreat into solitude to solidify their new ways of being. :-(

Jilly, yes, family can do it every time, huh? It's interesting what you said about seeing why monks retreat. On the other hand, I was just reading teachings from a Buddhist teacher about how monkhood can be a trap, and he believes many get trapped there for lifetimes, because it is easy in retreat for us to avoid facing our triggers and psychological patterns, all of which have to be faced and released on the path to enlightenment.

So each time you move your bracelet, you can be grateful that you at least are being shown your triggers!!

heh. true enough. I am afraid to put the bracelet back on....

I was recently reminded about this thread and thought it'd be a perfect time to see how we were doing!

I now wear a bodhi seed bracelet almost every time I go out -



I don't wear anything when I'm at home because I'm on my computer and bracelets or watches hurt my wrist if I type with them on.

The bracelet reminds me not to complain, to be compassionate and understanding.

I don't "move it" from wrist to wrist, but I do think about it if I am tempted to complain.

It's a beautiful bracelet Lisa. I still wear my purple "complaint free" bracelet. Most of the time on the computer it doesn't bother me - but on occasion I do take it off and just sit it on my desk with me.

I successfully hit 21 days last year! It was awesome. I haven't hit it again - but that's okay! I still enjoy the process.

Dear Deanna -

That's fantastic news - congratulations! What an amazing milestone!