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Here is the place to talk about the ups and downs of interfaith relationships. I know some Pagans have significant others who don't share their faith.

Do you have any questions you would like to ask? Do you have tips and support you would like to share with others?

My husband is Catholic, doesn't really practice, but believes. I am Wiccan. It works because we both respect the other's beliefs and don't try to change them.

Neither one of us takes ourselves too seriously, can laugh at ourselves and our own failings.

So I would say acceptance, respect and a sense of humor help.

Sometimes my husband will ask me to "pray to whoever it is you pray to" or "do one of your rituals or do some magic". He means it sincerely, he's not making fun at all, he just doesn't know how else to say it.

I have occasionally accompanied him to church and have offered to go many times if he wants me to. He joined me at the St. Louis Pagan Picnic last year, so there's a lot of give and take between us.

I have an interfaith relationship with myself. LOL

I think that it is HUGE that he has that much belief in you and what you are!!!!! Blessed Be

Helen,

That is great. I have known couples where they each just do their own thing and respect each other. That's such an enlightened attitude to have. I've also known of one couple where the wife came to Paganism many years after the marriage and the husband was not accepting at all and became abusive over it. That marriage of course did not last.

My husband is Pagan, but he still does his own thing. We have only done one ceremony together. I would prefer it if he would come to events with me. I've asked, and he just isn't interested. He is very much a solitary. But we have so much more in common, and since he is a Pagan and totally supports me, I can't really complain.

Helen, you are so fortunate, you and your husband, to be able to share and respect each other's beliefs.

Personally, I tend to agree with RavynG. And I respect myself and my different beliefs, because I have found a way that is right for me to blend them in harmony.

My husband is studying Asatru, and before that studied ancient Sumerian theology. I'm an eclectic, Deist Wiccan. We have spiritual conversations and support each other. We do some informal Sabbat celebrations. But we don't do ritual or other practices together.

I think that the thing that bridges the gap between us is that we have the same intellectual approach toward religion. We're both content in being cosmically wrong if we can find a way to be personally right. We don't judge what is right for the other, and approach each other's choices with interest.

It works for us...

Anda

Anda, You sound so much like my other half. She is a doctoral candidate and will have her Ph.D by November of this year. She is very spiritual, very down to earth, no pretense or B.S. and I don't mean Bachelor of Science. I am very proud of her! ! ! What the hell she ever sees in me at times is beyond me???? She is a right and left brain thinker and I am hopelessly confined to the right. We just love each other and have been married 41 years. Some in my family and some in hers said that it will never last, they're all gone now, we're still here. We act remedial at times and laugh like two kids where ever we are. If there is rock and roll music playing in the grocery store we have been known to dance around the aisles-earth people you know.

ancientflaxman, your marriage sounds like a beautiful union. It is wonderful to hear about unions like yours and Anda's that work. Blessings to all of you.

I was in a marriage, years ago, and my husband would ridicule everything I believed in. Needless to say, the marriage did not last long.

Phyllis, I wonder if he ever found out what he was missing?