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Hi Sharon:

I also have another issue that I would like us to talk about - Aging and loving yourself while you age.
I will be 36 this summer and I know I am still young, and very young-looking, but I have found some grey hairs and have some smile wrinkles that I have never had.
I know I have to love what is inside me and not what is on the outside - I am learning to do that - but it can be difficult in this society. I have always been considered really pretty (don't mean to toot my own horn because I never do but I want to illustrate my point) and it is tough to lose that.

I think that is a great issue to talk about - accepting the changes in your appearance as you age.

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Wow, that's a great topic! And, it ties in so well with self-esteem.

As a society we certainly place a high value on personal appearance. It's finding that balance between self-acceptance and self-appreciation and the nautural process of aging.

The cosmetics surgery business wouldn't be a billionaire dollar industry if we all accepted aging gracefully. But I guess "gracefully" is an individual thing.

I'm a big believer that leaving our self-esteem in the hands of others is giving away our power.

With all that said, I'm the one who spends $150 a month on getting my hair colored so the grey doesn't show.

It's a great topic of discussion and a future article - thank you for your suggestion!



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I will probably dye my hair as well when the time comes.... so I believe the issue to explore it that it is okay to care about your appearance, but to never let it affect your self-esteem.

When I was a pre-teen, I was super skinny and I had very thick curly hair - I was different. I hated how I looked - it consumed me. I wasn't considered pretty until about 16 but my self image always had that shaky feeling that I won't be loved unless I looked good.
This is still in my mind somewhere, no matter how much I devote to loving myself for me. Aging is a trigger for me and brings me back to that time of hating my appearance. People sure do treat attractive people much better than less attractive people.

I talk to my therapist about this and I think we can all help each other here.

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Smile wrinkles! What a wonderful compliment life has given you, BillieCat. To others, it show that you laugh and smile a lot, and have a fun personality. No need to be worried about those.


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Thanks smile
I was being kind to myself by calling them smile wrinkles because at this point in time, they are prominant when I smile.
I am overlooking the lines that are there otherwise!
I am trying to stay out of the sun and avoid a lot of stress which has been present in great amounts in my life......

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Thank you for bringing up this topic. That was a great idea.

I like what you said, Sharon, about leaving our self-esteem in the hands of others is giving away our power.


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