I will probably dye my hair as well when the time comes.... so I believe the issue to explore it that it is okay to care about your appearance, but to never let it affect your self-esteem.
When I was a pre-teen, I was super skinny and I had very thick curly hair - I was different. I hated how I looked - it consumed me. I wasn't considered pretty until about 16 but my self image always had that shaky feeling that I won't be loved unless I looked good.
This is still in my mind somewhere, no matter how much I devote to loving myself for me. Aging is a trigger for me and brings me back to that time of hating my appearance. People sure do treat attractive people much better than less attractive people.
I talk to my therapist about this and I think we can all help each other here.
Last edited by BillieCat; 04/23/08 11:15 AM.