Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 14,392Jilly BellaOnline Editor
Jilly BellaOnline Editor Highest Posting Power Known to Humanity
Joined: Feb 2003
Verde Valley, AZ
Leah, that is GREAT that you have that self esteem. But for other people, it sounds like a lovely evening out. The massage people probably don't want to be massaging ME; but it is their job and i appreciate what they do.
I don't know if it depends on self-esteem. I tend to be wary of "strangers" as it is and with a paid stranger...there's no..what's the word I'm looking for--oh it's intimacy...And I don't mean sleeping together intimacy, I mean really knowing someone and genuinely wanting to make them happy that sort of intimacy. And I think we all can have this, yes it will cost us, but not in dollars and cents. It's just not something that can be bought.
I think the massage analogy is a good one. I would much rather have my boyfriend give me a shoulder massage. But if he's busy, I don't mind paying a stranger to give me a shoulder massage, especially if my shoulders are really bothering me.
I guess I am repressed or something like that because I don't find anything sexy about man strippers. The lap dances are just icky. My mother in law asked for a stripper when she and her hubbie celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. (????) 'The girls' collected in one house. The guy just danced around for a while. Her daughter took him aside and asked him to go naked. So he took off his little underwear and danced around naked, his you know what flopping around. Honestly It was ridiculous. Then for the 'grand finale' he strattled her and rubbed himself all over her head/hair and up and down her arms. She thought this was just wonderful. I went outside to sit with the lesbians. For that this fellow made $150 fee plus enough tips to make $500. Honestly, I just don't get it. I can remember being much more turned on by watching a fellow climb an Oak tree with rope and saddle and walk out on the limbs to trim off dead pieces and then swing over to the other side of the tree to trim there. Then he rapelled down. Oh, my gosh!!! YUM
The Japanese women who hire male escorts do so for a few reasons:
1. Money assures the man's attentions. 2. The escorts play a very convincing role (adoring partner) for the evening, and although the women know it's an act, they enjoy the show. 3. Being the paying party gives them control of the evening and over the "relationship." 4. The arrangement is a guaranteed fun time. No lousy dates.
They have the money. Five grand is not a big deal to them. On top of this, they tip the escorts and/or pay for extra services.
There won't get this type of attention and service from the average Japanese male in their age group. It may seem silly and desperate, but to each her own. They want the male commpany. Like men who want pretty arm candy for the evening, these woman feel empowered and desireable with young escorts on their arms.
As for me, that whole male stripper thing is embarrassing. I wouldn't want him rubbing himself all over me. ick. But for some reason, watching a man work (and it doesn't really matter what he's doing) is appealing. Why is that?
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